I'm so sorry for your loss of Toto. Thanks for adding your condolences to Fuzzy Stone's "book" too. I have been through this experience twice now in as many years and have found that you really have two types of friends. One type are the "animal people" who can listen to you and cry along with you as you spill out your heart. The other type are the ones who don't understand, but they are your friends, so they play another role in the grief process by helping to distract you from the pain. It doesn't help to talk about your loss with them because it either makes them uncomfortable or they are just clueless about how you feel. But they are happy to invite you over or call you up and provide some entertainment to get your mind off your grief for awhile. I could never have survived the past week without both types of friends.
As for the cremation issue, there are two types of cremation: individual and group. If you had Toto cremated and had his ashes returned to you, you can be sure that they are really his. They charge some money for that service, but then you can keep his ashes as a memorial or scatter or plant them as you wish. If you did not ask to have the ashes returned, then he was cremated with other pets. If that is the case, be happy for him that he is out of his pain and his little doggy soul was surrounded by other pets that are no longer in pain either.
Letting go of our furry loved ones is the hardest thing we ever have to do. But I wouldn't give up a moment of the joy I had with either of my little guys to spare myself this pain. I like to think that I took their pain away by taking it onto myself. Keep your chin up. I know how hard it is.
As for the cremation issue, there are two types of cremation: individual and group. If you had Toto cremated and had his ashes returned to you, you can be sure that they are really his. They charge some money for that service, but then you can keep his ashes as a memorial or scatter or plant them as you wish. If you did not ask to have the ashes returned, then he was cremated with other pets. If that is the case, be happy for him that he is out of his pain and his little doggy soul was surrounded by other pets that are no longer in pain either.
Letting go of our furry loved ones is the hardest thing we ever have to do. But I wouldn't give up a moment of the joy I had with either of my little guys to spare myself this pain. I like to think that I took their pain away by taking it onto myself. Keep your chin up. I know how hard it is.
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