victims pay the price eventually.
Here, sleep at the bottom of hell
Your time has come to pick the road
You walk in this tale.
Turned and as a coward you've learned
Through sickness and health,
There's only one,
Now go and bite your tongue.
You'll just say the worst of me,
With a hope they'll understand.
No, they know you're just a boy.
So grow up and be a man.
There are times where words constrain emotions to bursting. To say, "this is what I do with someone, but we aren't "together" " is denial. If I said, "I get from a to b by jumping into a four wheeled motorized vehicle with seats, a trunk, and a roof," that'd be an automobile, likely a car. Even if I swore up and down it wasn't, it would be. Likewise, if you are sleeping with someone whom you care for and feel you could love if given the chance - and the feelings are mutual - and you spend time together - and go out of your way to see one another - well by golly, that's a relationship whether you call it one or not.
Indignantly insisting that it isn't so merely because you haven't technically labeled something is fallacious. It's just a waste of time.
I can respect the nervousness that comes with making choices. I can understand doubt and confusion and hurt. I sympathize, empathize. When I'm affected by your choices though (general your, anyone), I don't have to stand by and wait for your own recognizance to kick in. Much as I'd love to continue the game of ping pong (you know that isn't true) - I'm sick of it. I won't say leave or stay. I only control my own actions and destiny. You control yours. Don't ask me to make your choices. You are able.
And what's with people asking you not to hold things against them later in life? I am growing tired of this request from others. "If I get drunk and say something stupid, don't hold it against me, please." Really? Why should I excuse something just because you can't deal with the grown up consequences? If you borrow my car and don't have the balls to stand up and keep your best friend from driving it - and it gets totalled - why shouldn't I be upset by that????
When things happen that are out of someone's control, I easily forgive. Someone hit YOU and wrecked the car? Ok. That really sucks. But I understand. When someone makes a mistake or does something hurtful, I can usually let it go. Repeat offenders though? It's hard, man, hard. And for someone already in that camp to ask me to let something big go down the road...I don't know. I think that's wrong. It's avoidance.
I don't control you. We are all birds, able to fly where we choose. Sometimes our wings are damaged, or there is too much fog. But the skies here are clear, love. You can go left, right, or straight ahead. Nobody is here to hold your hand through it. Life is hard. Funny that birds live in the clouds and you can't right now.
It seems to me all this difficulty is an indication that it isn't right. Not yet. But maybe not.
I don't want to think so.
Your time has come to pick the road
You walk in this tale.
Turned and as a coward you've learned
Through sickness and health,
There's only one,
Now go and bite your tongue.
You'll just say the worst of me,
With a hope they'll understand.
No, they know you're just a boy.
So grow up and be a man.
There are times where words constrain emotions to bursting. To say, "this is what I do with someone, but we aren't "together" " is denial. If I said, "I get from a to b by jumping into a four wheeled motorized vehicle with seats, a trunk, and a roof," that'd be an automobile, likely a car. Even if I swore up and down it wasn't, it would be. Likewise, if you are sleeping with someone whom you care for and feel you could love if given the chance - and the feelings are mutual - and you spend time together - and go out of your way to see one another - well by golly, that's a relationship whether you call it one or not.
Indignantly insisting that it isn't so merely because you haven't technically labeled something is fallacious. It's just a waste of time.
I can respect the nervousness that comes with making choices. I can understand doubt and confusion and hurt. I sympathize, empathize. When I'm affected by your choices though (general your, anyone), I don't have to stand by and wait for your own recognizance to kick in. Much as I'd love to continue the game of ping pong (you know that isn't true) - I'm sick of it. I won't say leave or stay. I only control my own actions and destiny. You control yours. Don't ask me to make your choices. You are able.
And what's with people asking you not to hold things against them later in life? I am growing tired of this request from others. "If I get drunk and say something stupid, don't hold it against me, please." Really? Why should I excuse something just because you can't deal with the grown up consequences? If you borrow my car and don't have the balls to stand up and keep your best friend from driving it - and it gets totalled - why shouldn't I be upset by that????
When things happen that are out of someone's control, I easily forgive. Someone hit YOU and wrecked the car? Ok. That really sucks. But I understand. When someone makes a mistake or does something hurtful, I can usually let it go. Repeat offenders though? It's hard, man, hard. And for someone already in that camp to ask me to let something big go down the road...I don't know. I think that's wrong. It's avoidance.
I don't control you. We are all birds, able to fly where we choose. Sometimes our wings are damaged, or there is too much fog. But the skies here are clear, love. You can go left, right, or straight ahead. Nobody is here to hold your hand through it. Life is hard. Funny that birds live in the clouds and you can't right now.
It seems to me all this difficulty is an indication that it isn't right. Not yet. But maybe not.
I don't want to think so.