Just so you know...
Downton Abbey peeps, be assured none of this really concerns you. Hopefully none of you hear the constant fairytales about my whore or troll-like online personality. It’s been very refreshing to be in another fandom, especially when I just snuck in quietly and posted fic. Funnily enough, no one in DA-land has ever accused me of being friendly to other people to gain reviews. It’s rather refreshing to think that in the DA fandom, people read and enjoy my fics on their merits alone, and not because they’d heard my name from somewhere. Keeping a low profile, unfortunately, hasn’t continued and somehow I still find myself a mod on two comms in your fandom. Both unplanned gigs! Not that I’m whining about that, I enjoy both comms, and shocking as it may seem to BSG peeps, I’ve never had anyone take me to task about the number of rules I’ve established on either of the comms. Thank you all for making me so welcome in that fandom.
In contrast, it’s a great shame my first and most beloved fandom, a/r, continues to break my heart on a regular basis.
I was thinking of a full scale rant tonight. There have been several about me on so many occasions, after all. Perhaps now would be a good time to reply to all these accusations, I thought. Has anyone other than my friends really heard my side of the story? But then I realised that no one involved in the latest drama actually thought to take the time and effort to ask for my side of the story. They were quite happy to believe the worst. So, in the end I’ve decided on this mini-rant with the odd piece of sarcasm speckled throughout. Yes, I’m planning on keeping a little dignity.
I think I was shocked this week by certain people’s behaviour the most because I thought I’d been playing very nicely, and keeping to my designated corner of the fandom. I even thought I’d done the right thing by mentioning other comms on a reccers community! Perhaps my accidental missing underscore held sinister undertones to some, I don’t know.
Just so everyone’s clear why I have this post, it’s just to say I’m going to continue to write a/r. A/R mean everything to me. They taught me to write. And despite the drama still obviously following me around, they’ve brought me many happy times and many, many good friends. I will continue to post my fics to about_time and ar_drabbles. I will continue to enjoy Stef’s pretty pictures over at dailyeddie and dailymary because she still makes me feel welcome. If anyone would like to talk about EJO or MM, there is still me_chat.
All in all, that should leave at least another 6 bsg related comms that I won’t be a member of, so surely most people will be able to avoid my attitude without having it bother them.
I would like to continue to watch the various Closer and Major Crimes comms for free-from-spoilers news about the show and the prettiness, and hopefully will fly under the mods’ radar by ensuring I don’t have an opinion about anything. Individual opinions are evil things.
The other reason for this post is to say that, even though I already offer very little about my personal life on my journal due to the drama that’s been going on for a couple of years now, it will seem, I will be saying even less. But if I do offer a personal post, I’d like to say those things to people I think I can trust. Therefore, I shall be cutting back my f/list considerably.
I must add, I really hate making announcements about defriending, and until now I’ve just quietly done it. But apparently that quiet behaviour from me last time caused quite a stir with indignation and offence all around (and more posts about me and my whorey friends!). So, this time, you get the post just like you wanted.
My hesitancy to trust people in the fandom is being seen as snobbishness, or thinking that I’m above everyone else, apparently. Well, let’s just say, I’m about to get a whole lot snobbier.
I have two kids, a part time job, I volunteer at least 10 hours a week at their school, (yes, shocking I know, I have a real life!), I am betaing two fics and writing several. Reviews of late have been difficult for me to manage, with my online time limited, but I had been trying. (Obviously not hard enough for some.) And instead of sitting down and writing a chapter of something tonight, or reading any fic, I've just spent an hour or so writing this rant, which alas! has turned into more major than mini, with just the right amount of innuendo to get most of you wondering. Sorry about that.
I’ll just end by shouting out to bugsfic and nixmom for listening to me alternatively cry, rant, yell and whine down the intertubes over this new drama. I love you both!
And I’m glad there are still a few others out here I can too be assured of trusting now and in the future. Most of you I’ve saved the heartache of hearing about all this and will probably be going ‘wtf’ right now! LOL Talk to you all soon in private email, hey? ;)
In contrast, it’s a great shame my first and most beloved fandom, a/r, continues to break my heart on a regular basis.
I was thinking of a full scale rant tonight. There have been several about me on so many occasions, after all. Perhaps now would be a good time to reply to all these accusations, I thought. Has anyone other than my friends really heard my side of the story? But then I realised that no one involved in the latest drama actually thought to take the time and effort to ask for my side of the story. They were quite happy to believe the worst. So, in the end I’ve decided on this mini-rant with the odd piece of sarcasm speckled throughout. Yes, I’m planning on keeping a little dignity.
I think I was shocked this week by certain people’s behaviour the most because I thought I’d been playing very nicely, and keeping to my designated corner of the fandom. I even thought I’d done the right thing by mentioning other comms on a reccers community! Perhaps my accidental missing underscore held sinister undertones to some, I don’t know.
Just so everyone’s clear why I have this post, it’s just to say I’m going to continue to write a/r. A/R mean everything to me. They taught me to write. And despite the drama still obviously following me around, they’ve brought me many happy times and many, many good friends. I will continue to post my fics to about_time and ar_drabbles. I will continue to enjoy Stef’s pretty pictures over at dailyeddie and dailymary because she still makes me feel welcome. If anyone would like to talk about EJO or MM, there is still me_chat.
All in all, that should leave at least another 6 bsg related comms that I won’t be a member of, so surely most people will be able to avoid my attitude without having it bother them.
I would like to continue to watch the various Closer and Major Crimes comms for free-from-spoilers news about the show and the prettiness, and hopefully will fly under the mods’ radar by ensuring I don’t have an opinion about anything. Individual opinions are evil things.
The other reason for this post is to say that, even though I already offer very little about my personal life on my journal due to the drama that’s been going on for a couple of years now, it will seem, I will be saying even less. But if I do offer a personal post, I’d like to say those things to people I think I can trust. Therefore, I shall be cutting back my f/list considerably.
I must add, I really hate making announcements about defriending, and until now I’ve just quietly done it. But apparently that quiet behaviour from me last time caused quite a stir with indignation and offence all around (and more posts about me and my whorey friends!). So, this time, you get the post just like you wanted.
My hesitancy to trust people in the fandom is being seen as snobbishness, or thinking that I’m above everyone else, apparently. Well, let’s just say, I’m about to get a whole lot snobbier.
I have two kids, a part time job, I volunteer at least 10 hours a week at their school, (yes, shocking I know, I have a real life!), I am betaing two fics and writing several. Reviews of late have been difficult for me to manage, with my online time limited, but I had been trying. (Obviously not hard enough for some.) And instead of sitting down and writing a chapter of something tonight, or reading any fic, I've just spent an hour or so writing this rant, which alas! has turned into more major than mini, with just the right amount of innuendo to get most of you wondering. Sorry about that.
I’ll just end by shouting out to bugsfic and nixmom for listening to me alternatively cry, rant, yell and whine down the intertubes over this new drama. I love you both!
And I’m glad there are still a few others out here I can too be assured of trusting now and in the future. Most of you I’ve saved the heartache of hearing about all this and will probably be going ‘wtf’ right now! LOL Talk to you all soon in private email, hey? ;)