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ive officially decided that people do not change. they can change their views, actions, and morals but they never truly change. the guy i talked about who was in and out of jail is the same sweet yet weird guy he was from day one. hes still smart and fickle. hes changed his morals, actions and views but when u talk to him hes still the same idiot. lol he has not changed. the same is true for everyone else. they can do different things but they are still the same person. i dont feel like defending that point anymore so we'll leave it at that. but.....
haha this now presents another problem. if they have different actions and views and you disagree with their "new" self..do u "leave" them and by this i mean in one way or another disassociate with them because u dont like wat they do? now the problem is they are the same person but do u change ur actions towards them becaue of who they think they are now? the answer.....absofriekinlutely! think about it....umm ok a man,wife,and child. man was amazing then after the birth of the child starts beating his wife and child. now she knows he is the same person and thinks he doesnt mean it....but lets face it shes an idiot if she stays. he has changed his actions, morals, and views of everything family oriented. she has to see him for his new self and treat him as if that was who he really was. the same goes for the guy who was in and out of jail...we kno who he is deep down but he is an ex con, druggie, drunk, drug dealer, etc. the facts remain and it changes everything. this doesnt mean u totally start not talking to them or ne thing....
it means u have to talk to them tellin them u care and dont like them being that way. that they are better than that and that u dont wanna see them that way. then if they never "change" back and wont be helpe..u just have to stop it all together. i kno someone who can give first hand reference to this. she loved him and he "changed" she had to start dealing with the way he was and hated what he had become. she didnt want to give him up and i havent talked to her in a while and am not sure if she ever did but i hope for her sake she did.
now heres another question y do ppl decide to change their actions,views, and w/e?? i dotn get it. i mean ppl can "evolve" and be more mature but to totally change their actions and everything makes no sense. ahh y do ppl have to be so complicated?? y cant ppl stay the way they were and be the person they wanted to be? its sad that everyone can see who they really are and see that they are stupid for changing and they cant see it themselves. you wanna help them but if they cant see it themselves then u have a hard time.
which brings us to another question...can u help someone who dosnt want to be helped or who is not willing to help themselves?? and if u do help at what point do u stop? by that i'll give u the example of Bartelby...(i hate this book) but he was mentally unstable and had no life at all...he lived in an office etc. well his boss tries to help him and keeps on helping but he is not responding and just getting worse. he is put into a mental hospital...but a really nice one thats like a retirement home, fully equipt hopin he'll get better but he never does. he eventually dies. but the question remains...shhould he have stopped and if so at what point? do we ever stop helping or does it get to a pt where all we can do is pray?
haha so many questions...but all are subtopics to the question of "do ppl change?". ahh the stupid phisolophical questions!! ya kno if ppl did what they were supposed to and followed the "rules" then we wouldnt have these questions. and life would be simple. but thats a discussion for later...
haha this now presents another problem. if they have different actions and views and you disagree with their "new" self..do u "leave" them and by this i mean in one way or another disassociate with them because u dont like wat they do? now the problem is they are the same person but do u change ur actions towards them becaue of who they think they are now? the answer.....absofriekinlutely! think about it....umm ok a man,wife,and child. man was amazing then after the birth of the child starts beating his wife and child. now she knows he is the same person and thinks he doesnt mean it....but lets face it shes an idiot if she stays. he has changed his actions, morals, and views of everything family oriented. she has to see him for his new self and treat him as if that was who he really was. the same goes for the guy who was in and out of jail...we kno who he is deep down but he is an ex con, druggie, drunk, drug dealer, etc. the facts remain and it changes everything. this doesnt mean u totally start not talking to them or ne thing....
it means u have to talk to them tellin them u care and dont like them being that way. that they are better than that and that u dont wanna see them that way. then if they never "change" back and wont be helpe..u just have to stop it all together. i kno someone who can give first hand reference to this. she loved him and he "changed" she had to start dealing with the way he was and hated what he had become. she didnt want to give him up and i havent talked to her in a while and am not sure if she ever did but i hope for her sake she did.
now heres another question y do ppl decide to change their actions,views, and w/e?? i dotn get it. i mean ppl can "evolve" and be more mature but to totally change their actions and everything makes no sense. ahh y do ppl have to be so complicated?? y cant ppl stay the way they were and be the person they wanted to be? its sad that everyone can see who they really are and see that they are stupid for changing and they cant see it themselves. you wanna help them but if they cant see it themselves then u have a hard time.
which brings us to another question...can u help someone who dosnt want to be helped or who is not willing to help themselves?? and if u do help at what point do u stop? by that i'll give u the example of Bartelby...(i hate this book) but he was mentally unstable and had no life at all...he lived in an office etc. well his boss tries to help him and keeps on helping but he is not responding and just getting worse. he is put into a mental hospital...but a really nice one thats like a retirement home, fully equipt hopin he'll get better but he never does. he eventually dies. but the question remains...shhould he have stopped and if so at what point? do we ever stop helping or does it get to a pt where all we can do is pray?
haha so many questions...but all are subtopics to the question of "do ppl change?". ahh the stupid phisolophical questions!! ya kno if ppl did what they were supposed to and followed the "rules" then we wouldnt have these questions. and life would be simple. but thats a discussion for later...