I don't know what to do
I just don't. You see, there is this boy. I met him at the club back in November, and then randomly found him on Facebook a month later. One of my friends stole my computer and friended him, and he accepted. You see, I was quite taken with him when I met him, and kept going to the club to try and find him again, and my friend wanted to make things easier. He didn't. He made them so much worse.
Anyway, I have been conversing with said boy ever since. We have gotten to know each other, we became friends, and then at lunch on Valentine's Day I told him that I really liked him, and could he please make a move already? You see, we had been dancing around each other for a while, and I was getting tired of it. I was mistaken. He was just friendly, and told me that he "wasn't looking for anything" at the time. I was devastated. I got so drunk I puked at bushes (not in or on bushes, but at them).
Okay, so I backed off and we still chatted, because he really valued my friendship, and I am lame like that. Then a few weeks later he invited me to dinner to talk. I was a little confused, but went. We chatted about little things for a while before the conversation took a very serious turn. It turns out that he didn't explain himself very well. He likes me, he actually likes me a lot, but he is talking to another boy, and has been since before I met him. Talking is the stage where you are trying to figure out if you want to date someone or not. For gays like me (or him) that aren't slutty it implies a certain amount of commitment, and he felt that it would be unfair to pursue me while he was talking to someone else. I like that, but damn if it doesn't cause problems.
Anyway, the other man apparently is holding up the transition from talking to dating because he doesn't know what he wants, and the guy I like is getting frustrated. This means that there is a possibility that we might have something in the future. So since then I have been more aggressive in showing my interest, as I know that he like it when guys pursue him aggressively. Not too aggressively so as to turn him off, but enough to let him know that I am still interested. So now we come to tonight. We both had our birthdays this month, and neither of us could be there to celebrate with the other, so we decided to go out and celebrate tonight. And we did. With a date.
Now, I am sure that it wasn't intended to be a date, but that doesn't change the fact that it was one. He picked me up after he got done working out at the gym across the street from me, and then we went to his place so he could shower. That was nice. It was nicer when all of his clothes were in the kitchen, so he had to walk past me in nothing but a towel. Of the things that I like about him, his looks are the least important, but damn he is probably one of the hottest men I have ever seen, at least in my eyes.
Then he got dressed and we went to dinner. It was nice. It was mildly romantic, not overtly so, but it was still there, and he paid for it. Then we drove around a little and ended up getting dessert at an ice cream shop across from campus. I paid for this, and instead of eating it there, as there were a bunch of douche bags there and we do live in West Texas, we decided to walk around.
That's right. We had a romantic stroll around downtown. Then he drove me home, we talked some more, and I got a very nice hug before we parted. (I actually think I was supposed to invite him in, as he took off his seat belt when he parked, but I was unsure at the time and didn't want to assume...)
Now I don't know what to do. Before tonight I was trying to figure out a way to find another guy, as it didn't look like it was going to work out. That wasn't looking promising, as he is so far the only gay man in this city that I have met that actually wants a relationship, and I have met most of them. Now I don't know. My friends seem to think that I should wait for him (or I should be super aggressive and just take him, but that is so not me...), but I am tired of waiting. I get super depressed every time I talk to him because I want to be with him so bad but I can't.
How long do I wait for him before it becomes sad?
Anyway, I have been conversing with said boy ever since. We have gotten to know each other, we became friends, and then at lunch on Valentine's Day I told him that I really liked him, and could he please make a move already? You see, we had been dancing around each other for a while, and I was getting tired of it. I was mistaken. He was just friendly, and told me that he "wasn't looking for anything" at the time. I was devastated. I got so drunk I puked at bushes (not in or on bushes, but at them).
Okay, so I backed off and we still chatted, because he really valued my friendship, and I am lame like that. Then a few weeks later he invited me to dinner to talk. I was a little confused, but went. We chatted about little things for a while before the conversation took a very serious turn. It turns out that he didn't explain himself very well. He likes me, he actually likes me a lot, but he is talking to another boy, and has been since before I met him. Talking is the stage where you are trying to figure out if you want to date someone or not. For gays like me (or him) that aren't slutty it implies a certain amount of commitment, and he felt that it would be unfair to pursue me while he was talking to someone else. I like that, but damn if it doesn't cause problems.
Anyway, the other man apparently is holding up the transition from talking to dating because he doesn't know what he wants, and the guy I like is getting frustrated. This means that there is a possibility that we might have something in the future. So since then I have been more aggressive in showing my interest, as I know that he like it when guys pursue him aggressively. Not too aggressively so as to turn him off, but enough to let him know that I am still interested. So now we come to tonight. We both had our birthdays this month, and neither of us could be there to celebrate with the other, so we decided to go out and celebrate tonight. And we did. With a date.
Now, I am sure that it wasn't intended to be a date, but that doesn't change the fact that it was one. He picked me up after he got done working out at the gym across the street from me, and then we went to his place so he could shower. That was nice. It was nicer when all of his clothes were in the kitchen, so he had to walk past me in nothing but a towel. Of the things that I like about him, his looks are the least important, but damn he is probably one of the hottest men I have ever seen, at least in my eyes.
Then he got dressed and we went to dinner. It was nice. It was mildly romantic, not overtly so, but it was still there, and he paid for it. Then we drove around a little and ended up getting dessert at an ice cream shop across from campus. I paid for this, and instead of eating it there, as there were a bunch of douche bags there and we do live in West Texas, we decided to walk around.
That's right. We had a romantic stroll around downtown. Then he drove me home, we talked some more, and I got a very nice hug before we parted. (I actually think I was supposed to invite him in, as he took off his seat belt when he parked, but I was unsure at the time and didn't want to assume...)
Now I don't know what to do. Before tonight I was trying to figure out a way to find another guy, as it didn't look like it was going to work out. That wasn't looking promising, as he is so far the only gay man in this city that I have met that actually wants a relationship, and I have met most of them. Now I don't know. My friends seem to think that I should wait for him (or I should be super aggressive and just take him, but that is so not me...), but I am tired of waiting. I get super depressed every time I talk to him because I want to be with him so bad but I can't.
How long do I wait for him before it becomes sad?