My Vent About The Opposite Sex
1) Ok so a friend is a friend, regardless if the person is the same sex as you or the opposite, am I right? So why is it that guys think that if the two of you are hanging out alone and are strictly FRIENDS (as in never have hooked up before, purely platonic), that they can make a move on you? There really is a whole "friend zone" and if we (girls) did have any interest in hooking up with you (guys), 90% of the time it would have had to happen within the first month or so of getting to know you ( and getting to know doesn't mean just seeing around places..it means actually hanging out with them, one on one.) I enjoy having guys as friends..they're less drama most of the time, they can be a lot more laid back and for some reason, I feel like I could handle them being a lot more blunt with me than if the same were to come from a girl friend. It really pisses me off when I'm hanging out with a guy thats my friend and they try to hook up with me. Why can't guys and girls be JUST friends? Just because girls get more touchy/flirty when they're drinking doesn't necessarily mean they want to hook up with you...Honestly, if a girl really does want to hook up with you...especially if she's buzzed/drunk, she will make the first move. So please guys...don't make your girl friends feel awkward and DON'T TRY TO HOOK UP WITH US!
2) So I know when you're single, there shouldn't have to be any limits as to who you can and can't go for...but for real, is it really necessary to hook up with a girl, hook up with her friend, and then try and get on all her other friends, in the end potentially hooking up with all of them? I mean yeah, if everyone knows and is ok with it, that's fine, although its pretty skanky but for real, even though a girl might not always say it (since its kind of common knowledge...), we don't like to share guys with our friends (although I have seen a few exceptions...) If you've been hooking up with a girl repeatedly for at least a few months, its inevitable that she'll get attached whether she says anything to you or not (which she probably won't since really she doesn't have any right to if you're not together), and especially if you guys are friends, its pretty fucking rude to hook up with her friends too (or try..), especially when you think you're being slick about it because that seems even more shady. Girls talk..if not right away, they will at some point and then that definitely won't help your reputation...
3) Ok. I know I'm not always perfect and honest about every detail in my life, but I've gotta say this to guys. BE REAL ABOUT WHO YOU ARE. If you're a player, don't try to act like you're not. Especially with the whole Myspace crap, how people can approve comments and shit or when guys erase comments from girls, that looks HELLA shady. The truth about who you are can't stay in forever and girls with good intuition can pick up on things very easily. Yes, its true that if you're openly a player, that may repel some girls but you know what? They would probably end up being a shit load of drama later on when they find out how shady you are. Its better to have people like you for who you are than who you're not...and I know I need to work on this a little bit, but I really feel like guys lie, lie and lie even more! You know..here's a little secret to you guys: Sometimes girls ask questions that they already know the answer to, just to test you..and when you lie to our faces, all it does is make us talk shit! Be truthful and you'll get so much more respect and honestly, it probably won't even push people away because its not like playing the field is shady when you are SINGLE!!! Lying when you're single IS!
4) Ok..so you'd think this is common sense but apparently not..if you're in a relationship, BE FAITHFUL. It's only fair to the other person to let them be free if you are going to stray...just because you're not in a relationship with that person anymore doesn't mean that you can't still act the same or that you care for that person any less but its really selfish to cheat. Hasn't anyone heard of casual dating? Why does it seem like today its either all or nothing? Maybe I shouldn't be saying anything on this matter since I haven't been in a relationship for two years but I just feel like if you don't want to stay faithful, don't get involved. Be upfront with people from the start, and if you even have doubts, let the person go until your singleness is out of your system...there's no reason why people can't get back together, if something's meant to be, it will.
2) So I know when you're single, there shouldn't have to be any limits as to who you can and can't go for...but for real, is it really necessary to hook up with a girl, hook up with her friend, and then try and get on all her other friends, in the end potentially hooking up with all of them? I mean yeah, if everyone knows and is ok with it, that's fine, although its pretty skanky but for real, even though a girl might not always say it (since its kind of common knowledge...), we don't like to share guys with our friends (although I have seen a few exceptions...) If you've been hooking up with a girl repeatedly for at least a few months, its inevitable that she'll get attached whether she says anything to you or not (which she probably won't since really she doesn't have any right to if you're not together), and especially if you guys are friends, its pretty fucking rude to hook up with her friends too (or try..), especially when you think you're being slick about it because that seems even more shady. Girls talk..if not right away, they will at some point and then that definitely won't help your reputation...
3) Ok. I know I'm not always perfect and honest about every detail in my life, but I've gotta say this to guys. BE REAL ABOUT WHO YOU ARE. If you're a player, don't try to act like you're not. Especially with the whole Myspace crap, how people can approve comments and shit or when guys erase comments from girls, that looks HELLA shady. The truth about who you are can't stay in forever and girls with good intuition can pick up on things very easily. Yes, its true that if you're openly a player, that may repel some girls but you know what? They would probably end up being a shit load of drama later on when they find out how shady you are. Its better to have people like you for who you are than who you're not...and I know I need to work on this a little bit, but I really feel like guys lie, lie and lie even more! You know..here's a little secret to you guys: Sometimes girls ask questions that they already know the answer to, just to test you..and when you lie to our faces, all it does is make us talk shit! Be truthful and you'll get so much more respect and honestly, it probably won't even push people away because its not like playing the field is shady when you are SINGLE!!! Lying when you're single IS!
4) Ok..so you'd think this is common sense but apparently not..if you're in a relationship, BE FAITHFUL. It's only fair to the other person to let them be free if you are going to stray...just because you're not in a relationship with that person anymore doesn't mean that you can't still act the same or that you care for that person any less but its really selfish to cheat. Hasn't anyone heard of casual dating? Why does it seem like today its either all or nothing? Maybe I shouldn't be saying anything on this matter since I haven't been in a relationship for two years but I just feel like if you don't want to stay faithful, don't get involved. Be upfront with people from the start, and if you even have doubts, let the person go until your singleness is out of your system...there's no reason why people can't get back together, if something's meant to be, it will.