To be totally honest with you I think you really are over reacting. For one thing you can't assume Ari talked to Rachel right away, and you can't take Ari's response as Rachel's because they are in fact two different people. Fine, she shouldn't have attacked you. I agree with that, but you've made a lot of assumptions and that's just plain fucked up. You're treating your religion as an excuse as well. That's incredibly shameful. Next time you want to make a decision, be a fucking adult and talk to the person who's feelings are concerned and don't pretend you're just being mistreated because you're Christian. Sure Rachel makes jokes, but that's all they are. She has no desire to actually change anyone. You of all people should know she's above that. But you are right, you two shouldn't be friends anymore. Clearly you care more about your own feelings than anyone else's. Rachel deserves better than that.
personally, i dont know what to think, I spoken to Rachel, and i sent an email, so no need to say much more here, but I hate it when friends fall out... *goes sits in in the middle corner*
I almost hate to say this, but I'm done worrying about offending people. I've let down too many people by not saying what needed to be said. My first thought was "that's rich, coming from someone who lets her crushes govern her life." I wasn't taking Ari's response as Rachel's, I was venting about what I was told and how it hurt. You think I'm making assuptions, that it was because I'm a Christian, but she specifically told me that she was hiding stuff from me because I wouldn't believe her. If she doesn't know I was hurt by that, and by the angry looks I'd give her when she used the mocking labels she gave me and used to make fun of me with her other friends, she's more dense than she EVER believed me to be. Rachel does make jokes, sure, but these are not jokes. Trying to strangle a friend is not a joke. Quite frankly, I don't know her anymore. She's changed so much. She isn't who she used to be. I really no longer know if she's above changing people. The old her was. The new her, I don't know. I did what I felt I had
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You don't know Rachel anymore because you don't try to. In case you haven't noticed there's a lot of people who don't totally agree with you on this. I agree that she had no right to attack you. I'll stand by that. She should not have attacked you. But I've had worse done to me by people I trusted and dealt with it anyway. And also, prayers are based completely on listening. You should know that by now. So really the answers to your prayers can very easily be just what you wanted to see. And hiding stuff from you because you wouldn't believe her is not hiding stuff from you because you're Christian. She hides things from me too because I may not believe her. It's more a matter of not rolling your eyes and walking away from every secret she ever dares to tell you. Oh and by the way....if you really had two weeks of prayer you were praying a week before the whole incident. The bonfire was only a week ago. And as I recall the 'sacrifice' was your idea.
clearly, you have no idea what's been going on. I've tried to keep in tune with Rachel. She just pushes off my efforts. And I've been back in this country for not even 24 hours, and so far, you are the only one I know of taking Rachel's side. Name three besides yourself, Rachel, and Ari, and give me a way to contact them so they can hear my side of the story. Answers to prayers are rarely what you want to see. More often, they are answers of "no" or "wait". The bonfire may have been a week ago, but the rift has been building for months. I don't know who told you the sacrifice was my idea, but you have been drastically misinformed. Rachel and Ari approached me with the idea, I thought it would be amusing, didn't bother to turn it down and went along with it.
ok... reading back over this... I think I misinterpreted what you said earlier. I thought you were saying you weren't the only one jumping wholeheartedly into the situation at hand, even though it doesn't really concern you. I see now that that probably wasn't what you meant. (good night's sleep helps matters...). I'm sorry if I came off sounding presumptious or smug. I honestly thought you were saying something totally different than you were. Truce?
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