Quote of the day
I started reading Anthony Rapp's autobiography and I'm already in love with it. He is a fantastic writer, and his stories are fascinating. There was this one quote in there that his friend said to him when they were talking about mourning a death. His friend said:
"Whe you have someone you know who's died, you have to grieve of course, but really there are different things you have to grieve. You have to grieve the loss of the PERSON you know, the fact that the actual PERSON won't be there anymore to talk to, to laugh with, to share memories with, that sort of thing. And then you have to, you have to mourn the loss of who that person held you to be. Because that dies with them. Their vision of you no longer exists. And a whole world of who YOU are is gone. So you have to mourn that, too."
I think this is one of the most beautiful and true things that I've ever heard before. But I think that when a person dies, that YOU'RE memory of THEM still exists, and so therefore part of that world that the two of you shared together lives for just a little longer.
"Whe you have someone you know who's died, you have to grieve of course, but really there are different things you have to grieve. You have to grieve the loss of the PERSON you know, the fact that the actual PERSON won't be there anymore to talk to, to laugh with, to share memories with, that sort of thing. And then you have to, you have to mourn the loss of who that person held you to be. Because that dies with them. Their vision of you no longer exists. And a whole world of who YOU are is gone. So you have to mourn that, too."
I think this is one of the most beautiful and true things that I've ever heard before. But I think that when a person dies, that YOU'RE memory of THEM still exists, and so therefore part of that world that the two of you shared together lives for just a little longer.