Advice please!!!!
I seriously need some help.
i have been in love with this guy for 3 years now. I recently found out that he has been with another chick, and well she had no idea about me. Granted we are not together but we are kinda dating..its a sticky situation and if u are one of my friends you know exactly what i am talking about. Well anyway, since finding out about this new girl i freaked and ended up taklking to this girl for an hour and finding out all sorts of info. The next day i ended up talking to him and i know that i dont deserve to be put through this anymore, and that he has alot of growing up to do and alot of thinking to do if he ever wants to really even be friends with me again. I said some really harsh things to him that are sadly true. I hope that he remembers them and that maybe coming from me they will mean something. I told him that there would be no cjance of us getting back together and that i wasnt waiting for him anymore, and that i was going to move on with my life. He told me tonight that he couldnt stand life with out me, and that he needs me to be apart of his life. He also told me that he didnt mean to hurt me, it was the number one thing that he has been trying to avoid. He told me that he wants me to be his wife one day, and that he knows nobody that he would it rather be, that i was the best for it. And he always pictured us geting old together, and he is scared that now he realizes that that may never happen. I told him that if he is ever ready for a relationship that i wasnt going to wait around for him, and that i wouldnt garuntee that i would say yes. NOw here is my problem...Do i beleive him about this, do i actaully trust that what he is saying is for real..or is just another line to keep me from going anywhere, even though nothing is really going to change that. I love him with all my heart but i dont deserve to hurt. I want to know if it is possible that someone really can change and that maybe he really does mean something. Not everything he tells has to be lies. well thats it for me. I am going to talk to him on sunday and see what the deal is...maybe i will find out then. Feel free to comment, they would be greatly appreciated!!!
sincerly,
broken hearted and hopeful
i have been in love with this guy for 3 years now. I recently found out that he has been with another chick, and well she had no idea about me. Granted we are not together but we are kinda dating..its a sticky situation and if u are one of my friends you know exactly what i am talking about. Well anyway, since finding out about this new girl i freaked and ended up taklking to this girl for an hour and finding out all sorts of info. The next day i ended up talking to him and i know that i dont deserve to be put through this anymore, and that he has alot of growing up to do and alot of thinking to do if he ever wants to really even be friends with me again. I said some really harsh things to him that are sadly true. I hope that he remembers them and that maybe coming from me they will mean something. I told him that there would be no cjance of us getting back together and that i wasnt waiting for him anymore, and that i was going to move on with my life. He told me tonight that he couldnt stand life with out me, and that he needs me to be apart of his life. He also told me that he didnt mean to hurt me, it was the number one thing that he has been trying to avoid. He told me that he wants me to be his wife one day, and that he knows nobody that he would it rather be, that i was the best for it. And he always pictured us geting old together, and he is scared that now he realizes that that may never happen. I told him that if he is ever ready for a relationship that i wasnt going to wait around for him, and that i wouldnt garuntee that i would say yes. NOw here is my problem...Do i beleive him about this, do i actaully trust that what he is saying is for real..or is just another line to keep me from going anywhere, even though nothing is really going to change that. I love him with all my heart but i dont deserve to hurt. I want to know if it is possible that someone really can change and that maybe he really does mean something. Not everything he tells has to be lies. well thats it for me. I am going to talk to him on sunday and see what the deal is...maybe i will find out then. Feel free to comment, they would be greatly appreciated!!!
sincerly,
broken hearted and hopeful