Date + ideology = bleh... (NWS)
The pitfalls of dating: the crazy.
Sure, only *mildly* crazy, but the kind of crazy that fundamentally charaterises poor people as lazy bags of crap, who exist in their station because they simply don't 'want' strongly enough.
Which, of course, she (and people who also hold this viewpoint) refuse to admit that they hold.
It's part of the mentality that holds utter shite like 'The Secret' as 'reality'.
The mindset:
Anything is possible. Everything is achievable. The only failure is giving up, and even that's not a failure as it's a realisation that you *actually* didn't really want that thing you were striving for. That so long as you *really* want something and *really* try to get it: you'll succeed.
Moreover, if you *really* want something then you'll *really* try for it. Ergo, if you don't try, then you don't *really* want it.
The pros:
There is no doubt in my mind that a positive thinking, pro-active approach to life is a necessary step towards achieving significant goals in one's life. No doubt at all.
The con:
That the only thing that is necessary is that mindset: utter bullshit.
This *is* what is espoused, and a necessary corollary: if you don't have something, then you haven't *really* tried for it, then you don't *really* want it.
The proponents of this viewpoint want to say: positive thinking *will* get you what you want, regardless of your circumstances.
They wish to deny the necessary converse: those people in Africa, starving? They just don't want food enough... Because regardless of your circumstances: if you want something enough, then you'll get it.
By the end of the date, I managed to *not* say:
Whoa... A blonde-haired, blue-eyed woman in her early 20s, of European descent (with both Canadian and UK citizenship), born to a middle-class family, believes that she can have anything in the world that she wants, if only she wants it enough?
And you believe that this also follows for everyone else on the planet?
No wai!
While I don't believe she'll be looking for a 2nd date, I know for sure that I won't be...