I'm not sure if you're familiar with Gawker, but I found THIS rather interesting - and perhaps slightly problematic. It's Gawker's Privilege Tournament, and I far from the first to talk about
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Yeah. I've participated in many exercises meant to show privilege that seemed far more effective that this/ woldy mentions intersectionality and that is huge. We all identify as many things and this seems to not only force us to compete against each other, but also ourselves. For example, I'll admit to being white and cisgendered, but I'm also short, over-weight, and over-educated and under-employed. Polyamorous was not a category, but I'm that, too.
Identity is complex, as is presentation!
I look at it all very differently, myself. Cody just got back from this really amazing conference of "Rebellious Nurses" (http://rebelnursing.org/) that was all about social justice and how to best create safe and healthy spaces for all to grow and thrive. They talked about this issue in terms of medicine, but I really believe that if we create a system that empowers some of the most marginalized of people (say, an HIV positive, trans-person, sex worker recently immigrated from Indonesia), we can help empower everyone.
True. If we put together resources that will help the most-marginalized among us, that will help everyone. One of the biggest problems is when people aren't aware of the realities of groups they are prejudiced against--I firmly believe that the more you know real people (even acquaintances) in a group you fear, are prejudiced against, or don't understand, the less prejudiced and fearful you become. Usually.
For one, I knew very little about polyamorous relationships ten years ago, but having read about/heard from people in poly relationships has helped me realize how healthy and supportive they can be. And how wonderful--your posts about the growing relationship between you, Andrew, and Cody simply shone with love and joy. And your posts about the three of you still do.
THANK YOU!!! That means a lot, really. Polyamory can be confusing because it can take so many forms. For many it's basically about open relationships and the freedom to date others. For us, however, it's about forming a loving, family unit. Each has it's challenges, but it's a very different model, I think.
(Ironically, one of our biggest challenges is food. Who knows why, but we are three people with various digestive issues who love each other very much, but cannot always eat the same foods.)
Identity is complex, as is presentation!
I look at it all very differently, myself. Cody just got back from this really amazing conference of "Rebellious Nurses" (http://rebelnursing.org/) that was all about social justice and how to best create safe and healthy spaces for all to grow and thrive. They talked about this issue in terms of medicine, but I really believe that if we create a system that empowers some of the most marginalized of people (say, an HIV positive, trans-person, sex worker recently immigrated from Indonesia), we can help empower everyone.
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For one, I knew very little about polyamorous relationships ten years ago, but having read about/heard from people in poly relationships has helped me realize how healthy and supportive they can be. And how wonderful--your posts about the growing relationship between you, Andrew, and Cody simply shone with love and joy. And your posts about the three of you still do.
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(Ironically, one of our biggest challenges is food. Who knows why, but we are three people with various digestive issues who love each other very much, but cannot always eat the same foods.)
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