Can't
You know, I should stop telling myself that I can't do something if the only problem is difficulty, not inability.
I used the words "I can't" too much as a kid.
I have various inabilities and I have various difficulties. Two very different creatures. Sometimes the stuff I can't do is temporary, sometimes it's permanent. But there are always ways to work around the difficult parts. As far as the unable parts, well, I cope with those and find other ways to do things.
Some people think that we can do anything. I feel that it depends on our physical and mental and environmental circumstances, whether or not the thing is a truly attainable goal, and the amount of effort we put into it.
I don't like to be told, "You can do anything you put your mind to. You have no limitations." To me that implies, "What the hell is wrong with you? It's not that hard. Go do it! Quit whining!"
There are some things that some of us just cannot do, at all. It's not that we're accepting the limitations, it's that we understand the limitations, and we try different tactics that might not be what everyone else does. Sometimes we might need a little time to come up with a plan that works for us. But telling me that I can do something when I clearly cannot frustrates and irritates me. I will find a way around the inability, but that doesn't mean my way will be like everyone else's.
What I tell myself is, "You should be able to do anything you put your mind to, and if it is too difficult, try to find another way. And if you just cannot do it, do something else." But that might be too many words.
I used the words "I can't" too much as a kid.
I have various inabilities and I have various difficulties. Two very different creatures. Sometimes the stuff I can't do is temporary, sometimes it's permanent. But there are always ways to work around the difficult parts. As far as the unable parts, well, I cope with those and find other ways to do things.
Some people think that we can do anything. I feel that it depends on our physical and mental and environmental circumstances, whether or not the thing is a truly attainable goal, and the amount of effort we put into it.
I don't like to be told, "You can do anything you put your mind to. You have no limitations." To me that implies, "What the hell is wrong with you? It's not that hard. Go do it! Quit whining!"
There are some things that some of us just cannot do, at all. It's not that we're accepting the limitations, it's that we understand the limitations, and we try different tactics that might not be what everyone else does. Sometimes we might need a little time to come up with a plan that works for us. But telling me that I can do something when I clearly cannot frustrates and irritates me. I will find a way around the inability, but that doesn't mean my way will be like everyone else's.
What I tell myself is, "You should be able to do anything you put your mind to, and if it is too difficult, try to find another way. And if you just cannot do it, do something else." But that might be too many words.