On the issue of sex
I know I've said before that I don't want to have sex before marriage. And now I am 100% SURE.
There's been a lot of pressure around me lately with the whole idea of sex whenever you feel like it. Many of my friends have done it several times with different people.
Although I'm in the whole sex-driven-hormones stage, I find if I think about it - there's really not much of a reward in it all. You get sweaty and smelly and emotionally hurt when it's over. And what is it? A few minutes of fleeting pleasure that involves a small hole and a object that fits in it. That's all. And what goes along with that few minutes of 'fun' is heartache and attached problems. Seriously. You get involved with someone you are attracted to and one thing leads to another. Eventually you hit the sack together and usually break up. What have you accomplished? You've given a piece of yourself that you can never get back - can never give to your lifelong-spouse when you get married. A fragment of you stays with that previous partner, and you cannot give the one thing you can never give to anyone else - virginity.
I mean, sure, it's just a piece of skin and the pain only lasts for a little while. Sure it isn't considered a big deal anymore. But I guess I just have a higher opinion of that important choice that others. Not to mention any complications that can come from it all - STDs, pregnancies, emotional scarring, etc. I don't desire any of those, and I'm not girly and desperate enough to have a strong yearning for male attention. I guess my dad gave me plenty of love and fatherly attention for me not to look for and need male love in other places. But that's me stereotyping. I was also protected from a lot of the pressures of what our worldy society makes us believe in.
Anyways.
It's not important enough, and I'm not interested enough in it to screw up my life and my emotions.
Drinking. Smoking. Drugs. None of those are my priority, although I have had a bit of alcohol. I don't need it to have fun and act like a complete dork, though. I can hallucinate on my own without drugs, too - it's called being dead tired and a college student! ;)
*sigh* If only everybody's life could be as simple as mine, or their morals the same. The would would be so much more nice & understanding and much much less aggressive, cruel and vengeful.
Although the world would be infested with dorks!
I have no need for sex in my life right now. I am not easily attracted to any guy who walks my way. Erogenous areas apparently don't work on me either; I am not easily seduced. Ever. If at all.
Mn. Just an observation of mine. Nobody has to agree with me, but it has been said that I have a really good insight into relationships. Eventually I'll experience one and most likely I will not straight-off marry the first person I date. I'm sure I may have a couple guys in my life before I find the right one. But I can wait. I am patient and in no rush. All I ask is that I don't die of old age before my kids graduate from college! XD
Heh. Okay. I'm done inadvertently insulting all of my friend's style of life. I apologize if I may have hurt anybody's feelings!
Peace out.
There's been a lot of pressure around me lately with the whole idea of sex whenever you feel like it. Many of my friends have done it several times with different people.
Although I'm in the whole sex-driven-hormones stage, I find if I think about it - there's really not much of a reward in it all. You get sweaty and smelly and emotionally hurt when it's over. And what is it? A few minutes of fleeting pleasure that involves a small hole and a object that fits in it. That's all. And what goes along with that few minutes of 'fun' is heartache and attached problems. Seriously. You get involved with someone you are attracted to and one thing leads to another. Eventually you hit the sack together and usually break up. What have you accomplished? You've given a piece of yourself that you can never get back - can never give to your lifelong-spouse when you get married. A fragment of you stays with that previous partner, and you cannot give the one thing you can never give to anyone else - virginity.
I mean, sure, it's just a piece of skin and the pain only lasts for a little while. Sure it isn't considered a big deal anymore. But I guess I just have a higher opinion of that important choice that others. Not to mention any complications that can come from it all - STDs, pregnancies, emotional scarring, etc. I don't desire any of those, and I'm not girly and desperate enough to have a strong yearning for male attention. I guess my dad gave me plenty of love and fatherly attention for me not to look for and need male love in other places. But that's me stereotyping. I was also protected from a lot of the pressures of what our worldy society makes us believe in.
Anyways.
It's not important enough, and I'm not interested enough in it to screw up my life and my emotions.
Drinking. Smoking. Drugs. None of those are my priority, although I have had a bit of alcohol. I don't need it to have fun and act like a complete dork, though. I can hallucinate on my own without drugs, too - it's called being dead tired and a college student! ;)
*sigh* If only everybody's life could be as simple as mine, or their morals the same. The would would be so much more nice & understanding and much much less aggressive, cruel and vengeful.
Although the world would be infested with dorks!
I have no need for sex in my life right now. I am not easily attracted to any guy who walks my way. Erogenous areas apparently don't work on me either; I am not easily seduced. Ever. If at all.
Mn. Just an observation of mine. Nobody has to agree with me, but it has been said that I have a really good insight into relationships. Eventually I'll experience one and most likely I will not straight-off marry the first person I date. I'm sure I may have a couple guys in my life before I find the right one. But I can wait. I am patient and in no rush. All I ask is that I don't die of old age before my kids graduate from college! XD
Heh. Okay. I'm done inadvertently insulting all of my friend's style of life. I apologize if I may have hurt anybody's feelings!
Peace out.