As I said in the old place, I am done there. I hope I don't get bitched out much more this weekend. But hey, knock yourselves out. Just don't ask me to open any more veins.
I'm sorry I leaped to conclusions about Roger. It was hard not to get upset when it wasn't clear. And I say that because I want you guys to work out, not because I enjoy taking sides.
I told Justin that if you just went back to dealing with anon. fucks with the tricking it was a concession that might make things a little easier for both of you.
I don't have a suggestion or advice about your tricking conflicts with Justin. I know you don't play the field that often and I know you are always conscious of the price tag (that it might hurt Justin.)
But the loneliest thing I think I ever heard you say is you don't need a friend.
Maybe you did fuck things up with Roger with bringing the sex into it so that might never have worked out, but Brian, *everyone* is entitled to having a friend. Sometimes it's difficult in relationships for partners to deal with this. Justin and Michael aren't always compatible, for example.
But I can't believe that Justin would ask you to never have friends of your own. I think we need to hear more from him before leaping to conclusions.
Of course, you are a very hot man, so it would be hard to find someone who might not find you attractive, whether it's a straight man, gay man or a woman or whatever. But friendships can work despite that, if it's pushed aside.
So you've made a concession which might ease this situation for both of you and avoid problems in future. That is a big deal. You are also going to do something about Roger and you've thought about what that meant for you and Justin.
I think you've done a lot. I hope it will help with Justin.
BTW, I know I'm not your friend, really, but I do believe Lady Jane is. So you do have one friend you know wishes both you and Justin well and doesn't place a strain on your relationship with Justin.
Okay, this last bit is from furriboots who had a really bad week and has had a bit of alcohol, so she asked I relay her comment so it's not ungrammatical.
She says: re tricking: Justin asked to be invited into the decision making when you trick, not take over.
And she adds that perhaps Justin doesn't want you to flaunt, but basic information such as, "I fucked a guy last night" might help. I guess that is disclosure without details.
And because you said you will only answer comments if they ask you a direct question (sometimes), did any of what we said to you here help? Because we honestly hope for that.
To answer your QUESTION, at the moment I am bleeding all over the fucking floor, so no, I don't really feel helped, mostly I feel barraged from all sides.
LadyJane says sometimes I overreact to shit; maybe this is one of those times.
And maybe if and when my wounds heel, I might feel differently.
Yes, I do believe Jane is right and you are overreacting. Even if Justin has insecurities about you having a friend, he's a very loving person and I don't believe that you can never have a friendship. Michael was a friendship made when you were younger and so you made mistakes with him, well, so what, that doesn't doom you to never managing things better.
Your entire relationship with Justin is an act of hope. It shouldn't work but it does, so I don't think you should write off having friends of your own and him dealing with it.
Also, I thought that while he is busy with the boys and so on, his message did seem to say that he wanted to maybe make up.
I'm sorry you feel shitty. I hope you make up and spend the night in happier activities.
I told Justin that if you just went back to dealing with anon. fucks with the tricking it was a concession that might make things a little easier for both of you.
I don't have a suggestion or advice about your tricking conflicts with Justin. I know you don't play the field that often and I know you are always conscious of the price tag (that it might hurt Justin.)
But the loneliest thing I think I ever heard you say is you don't need a friend.
Maybe you did fuck things up with Roger with bringing the sex into it so that might never have worked out, but Brian, *everyone* is entitled to having a friend. Sometimes it's difficult in relationships for partners to deal with this. Justin and Michael aren't always compatible, for example.
But I can't believe that Justin would ask you to never have friends of your own. I think we need to hear more from him before leaping to conclusions.
Of course, you are a very hot man, so it would be hard to find someone who might not find you attractive, whether it's a straight man, gay man or a woman or whatever. But friendships can work despite that, if it's pushed aside.
So you've made a concession which might ease this situation for both of you and avoid problems in future. That is a big deal. You are also going to do something about Roger and you've thought about what that meant for you and Justin.
I think you've done a lot. I hope it will help with Justin.
BTW, I know I'm not your friend, really, but I do believe Lady Jane is. So you do have one friend you know wishes both you and Justin well and doesn't place a strain on your relationship with Justin.
Okay, this last bit is from furriboots who had a really bad week and has had a bit of alcohol, so she asked I relay her comment so it's not ungrammatical.
She says: re tricking: Justin asked to be invited into the decision making when you trick, not take over.
And she adds that perhaps Justin doesn't want you to flaunt, but basic information such as, "I fucked a guy last night" might help. I guess that is disclosure without details.
And because you said you will only answer comments if they ask you a direct question (sometimes), did any of what we said to you here help? Because we honestly hope for that.
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LadyJane says sometimes I overreact to shit; maybe this is one of those times.
And maybe if and when my wounds heel, I might feel differently.
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Yes, I do believe Jane is right and you are overreacting. Even if Justin has insecurities about you having a friend, he's a very loving person and I don't believe that you can never have a friendship. Michael was a friendship made when you were younger and so you made mistakes with him, well, so what, that doesn't doom you to never managing things better.
Your entire relationship with Justin is an act of hope. It shouldn't work but it does, so I don't think you should write off having friends of your own and him dealing with it.
Also, I thought that while he is busy with the boys and so on, his message did seem to say that he wanted to maybe make up.
I'm sorry you feel shitty. I hope you make up and spend the night in happier activities.
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