Fucking hell
"Whereas I am actually bi and not just an imaginary one, and whereas I know that you and merc and whomever else agree on your point of view, I know an equal number of people who would be offended by any of you speaking as someone who is "bi" when you clearly have no first hand experience. Claim it all you want, but wishing doesn't make it true. You can change yours. You can't change theirs. When they change theirs, go nuts. Until then, you can assume that I am insensitive and I can assume that you're whiny. That's the end of it."
blacklid is sure a piece of work.
I am self-conscious about self-identifying as bi given my lack of first-hand experience, which is why I was really careful to try to talk about my own feelings and not generalize. Normally I choose queer instead of bi if I have to label at all. Seriously, I haven't even outright told my family because I feel that because I'm dating a man I somehow haven't earned the right to identify as bisexual (though it says good things about my family that I'm worried about them thinking I'm a poser, not being upset because of the liking women part, doesn't it?).
Since my partner and I have been together for over four years now and the plan is to stay together, I could keep passing as straight quite easily. I choose not to. And it's been really hard and caused a lot of conflict with my partner actually, who keeps asking me why, since I'm with him, I don't just say I'm straight because I "might as well be." And that hurts. I'm still young and learning and figuring a lot of this stuff out, though, and I only spoke up about it tonight because I thought it might help them understand to have a personal example. Guess that was a mistake.
I know I shouldn't let this upset me. I know that even if I were 100% straight the arguments we made would still be true, but actually I just want to cry right now. Way to hit a nerve.
/but seriously, how come straight virgins count then?
Edited to add: Thanks for the support, all. You've made me feel much better.
blacklid is sure a piece of work.
I am self-conscious about self-identifying as bi given my lack of first-hand experience, which is why I was really careful to try to talk about my own feelings and not generalize. Normally I choose queer instead of bi if I have to label at all. Seriously, I haven't even outright told my family because I feel that because I'm dating a man I somehow haven't earned the right to identify as bisexual (though it says good things about my family that I'm worried about them thinking I'm a poser, not being upset because of the liking women part, doesn't it?).
Since my partner and I have been together for over four years now and the plan is to stay together, I could keep passing as straight quite easily. I choose not to. And it's been really hard and caused a lot of conflict with my partner actually, who keeps asking me why, since I'm with him, I don't just say I'm straight because I "might as well be." And that hurts. I'm still young and learning and figuring a lot of this stuff out, though, and I only spoke up about it tonight because I thought it might help them understand to have a personal example. Guess that was a mistake.
I know I shouldn't let this upset me. I know that even if I were 100% straight the arguments we made would still be true, but actually I just want to cry right now. Way to hit a nerve.
/but seriously, how come straight virgins count then?
Edited to add: Thanks for the support, all. You've made me feel much better.