Comments | bradygirl_12: Recs, The Nature Of BDSM, D/s, and Other Things

bradygirl_12

Recs, The Nature Of BDSM, D/s, and Other Things

Jan 03, 2010 22:20

Hmm, I thought I'd do a rec of comms that might fit some people's tastes: slavefics, dsfics, and bdsm_fandom. The latter two involve consensual dominance and submission. All are multi-fandom comms and the first two also allow original fic.

( A little rambling behind the cut on the nature of D/s and other things, some of which involves fannish characters )

fandom, rec, fanfic

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northernwalker January 4 2010, 03:40:35 UTC

Thanks for the recs!

My belief is that Clark is a natural sub, which suits the most powerful being on the planet, because it's a psychological safety mechanism for the rest of us. A man with sub tendencies is far less likely to want to rule the world. And being a sub doesn't mean he's a wimp!

Not an unpopular view with me. He didn't choose to be who he is in the same way that Bruce or Oliver or even Diana did. All of them made choices to become something more than their everyday selves- even Diana could have stayed home and not come to Man's world. Clark felt a responsibility, but given his druthers, I wonder if he'd choose to be born without the strength.

bradygirl_12 January 4 2010, 03:45:51 UTC

Thanks for the recs!

You're welcome! :)

My belief is that Clark is a natural sub, which suits the most powerful being on the planet, because it's a psychological safety mechanism for the rest of us. A man with sub tendencies is far less likely to want to rule the world. And being a sub doesn't mean he's a wimp!

Not an unpopular view with me. He didn't choose to be who he is in the same way that Bruce or Oliver or even Diana did. All of them made choices to become something more than their everyday selves- even Diana could have stayed home and not come to Man's world. Clark felt a responsibility, but given his druthers, I wonder if he'd choose to be born without the strength.I think Clark would have been very happy to take over the farm and stay in Smallville. He would love being close to the earth and being a pillar of the community like his parents were, and maybe write for the local paper. :) Though he might still have become a journalist and gone to Metropolis, but if he had his druthers, I think he would have liked to have been ( ... )

jeannev January 4 2010, 03:46:28 UTC

bradygirl_12 January 4 2010, 03:53:03 UTC

Your belief about Clark mirrors my own. And for the very reasons you cite. It just makes sense to me that Clark would reliquinsh control in sexual situations. Of course, sub's actually have quite a bit of control in the D/S dynamic. And that too suits Clark.

Exactly! The sub really holds the power, and that would suit Clark very well. :)

I can see Bruce playing the role, too, in order to give up control with someone he trusts, but he's a natural Dom in my book. ;)

Clark as the all-powerful Superman is best-suited to a sub personality while Bruce as the vulnerable human Batman needs that drive of a Dom to survive. That doesn't mean they can't switch and enjoy the different roles, just that they have natural preferences. :)

I touched on that theme recently in the last arc of Rainbow's Freedom, because the boys' relationship there is very complicated but works for them. :)

jeannev January 4 2010, 03:56:08 UTC

bradygirl_12 January 4 2010, 04:03:27 UTC

I don't think I could see Bruce as a sub. I just don't believe he'd be able to give up the control (or the illusion of it). Thats just not his personality. Oliver is another character that I couldn't envision as a sub.

I understand what you're saying. Giving up that control is very, very difficult for some people. The only way I could see either Bruce or Ollie doing it is with someone they trust completely, and only after wrestling with their inner Doms. ;)

Now, someone like Lex, I could envision either way.

*nods*

I totally buy that!

But Clark? I can only see him as a sub.

*laughs*

Our boy is just naturally subby, isn't he? ;)

patrese1 January 4 2010, 04:19:54 UTC

bradygirl_12 January 4 2010, 17:46:34 UTC

I don't know very much about BDSM but from the gist of it, I agree that Bruce being human, and the necessity for being dominant to survive would also extend that preference in his relationships.

I view Bruce as naturally dominant, but cultivating that personality trait to survive as Batman. He likes to be in control in EVERYTHING, so playing or living D/s would be his thing. :)

But how does a sub hold the power?

D/s is supposed to be consensual, so parameters are usually agreed on before the play begins. A safeword is established so that if things get too intense or goes in a direction that the sub doesn't like, he/she uses the safeword to stop the action. Doms can use it, too, but it's usually the sub who does, therefore ultimately controlling the game.

Think of Bruce/Dick in a D/s relationship. Bruce would easily be the Dom and Dick eager to please as the sub, but who has whom wrapped around their finger? ;)

saavikam77 January 4 2010, 04:25:21 UTC

I can only really see Clark as a sub, too. It's sort of the same way I usually only see him bottoming to his partners (and especially with toppy/dom Bruce :p). All that incredible strength, it seems like he'd have a need for it to be tamed, kept in check, you know?

bradygirl_12 January 4 2010, 17:53:40 UTC

saavikam77 January 5 2010, 00:30:17 UTC

People don't usually understand what I mean when I talk about Clark needing a strong partner to take control, like Lois, but you definitely see what I mean! It's all about his need for a firm hand. A meek partner (like early SV Lana) just won't do for him, especially after he really comes into his powers. I think that's a large part of the overall story of him falling for Lois and looking back and seeing Lana as someone that would have wound up wrong for him in the long run.

So many layers to Clark's story, I just love it!

bradygirl_12 January 5 2010, 01:54:05 UTC

People don't usually understand what I mean when I talk about Clark needing a strong partner to take control, like Lois, but you definitely see what I mean! It's all about his need for a firm hand.

Exactly! As a child he had his parents as the authority figures, and then as he grew up he sought out someone to help him control. Lois or Bruce are such wonderful matches because of their incredible strength of will and dominance. Clark's instincts tell him that he needs that.

A meek partner (like early SV Lana) just won't do for him, especially after he really comes into his powers.

Bingo! That must be one of the reasons I didn't they they worked on SV. Maybe in comicsverse they could, but SV Lana just couldn't be that personality for Clark until much, much later, and too much water had gone under the bridge by then.

I think that's a large part of the overall story of him falling for Lois and looking back and seeing Lana as someone that would have wound up wrong for him in the long run.Even when I view them as platonic partners, Lois ( ... )

me_ya_ri January 4 2010, 04:56:59 UTC

First, *waves hands excitedly for Slave/D/s challenge* I'd be SOOOOO up for that! 8D Heck, I'd probably write multiple things for it, given the theme. *laughs*

Second, complete agreement with Clark as a sub. I can see him with top tendancies but not as a true Dom. Switch, sure, that's easy too. Bruce is so very much a Dom. *grins* It's just his personality, I think.

Oh and yes, please to Christian Bale in collar and chains. *big eager grin* You know I like that idea! ;D

bradygirl_12 January 4 2010, 18:05:41 UTC

First, *waves hands excitedly for Slave/D/s challenge* I'd be SOOOOO up for that! 8D Heck, I'd probably write multiple things for it, given the theme. *laughs*

*laughs*

I did host a Bondage Challenge a few years ago. Maybe it's time to dust it off again. Poll time? I know YOUR answer, LOL!

Second, complete agreement with Clark as a sub. I can see him with top tendancies but not as a true Dom. Switch, sure, that's easy too. Bruce is so very much a Dom. *grins* It's just his personality, I think.

Your stories encapsulate that notion so well. I became a fan of yours with your Clex story Destiny In The Blood about Kryptonian males submitting because it's what they're driven to do genetically, and then of course your wonderful Clark/Bruce/Lex tale, Light And Dark. :)

Oh and yes, please to Christian Bale in collar and chains. *big eager grin* You know I like that idea! ;D

*grins*

Public Enemies just seems to scream D/s to me. ;) Johnny Dillinger is this mesmerizing rogue (excellently played by Johnny Depp) and Melvin Purvis ( ( ... )