The Odyssey Is Over
It's been almost two years since I started this blog. I'm no longer amazed at the symmetries of life. I started boyspacefriend after a funeral, and now I'm ending it after another funeral. The grief unleashed by the sight of pink and white balloons floating into the sky, the incredible bond between a group of lifetime friends, the tragedy of a decent and brilliant individual wasted by arrogance and accident - these are the things that fill me with perspective. Being emo is a farce, being outraged is pretentious, without being anchored by loyalty and love to the people dearest to us.
This week my failure and my success in doing that anchoring was brought into spectacular contrast. It's been two years in coming, but I - we - have finally closed the circle that began with secrets and lies and ended with forgiveness and respect. Now it's time to end this chapter, built on the aimlessness and the dislocation and the mistakes that define all transitions, and move on. Regrets are wiped away, reputations are accepted, relationships are clarified. Some may come later than others, but I have faith that they will come. It just takes time to untie all the knots and unite new ones.
"In life, only one thing is certain, apart from death and taxes. No matter how hard you try, no matter how good your intentions, you are going to make mistakes. You’re going to hurt people. You’re going to get hurt. And if you ever want to recover… there’s really only one thing you can say."
"Forgive and forget. That’s what they say. It’s good advice, but it’s not very practical. When someone hurts us, we want to hurt them back. When someone wrongs us, we want to be right. Without forgiveness, old scores are never settled… old wounds never heal. And the most we can hope for, is that one day we’ll be lucky enough to forget."
- Grey's Anatomy
This week my failure and my success in doing that anchoring was brought into spectacular contrast. It's been two years in coming, but I - we - have finally closed the circle that began with secrets and lies and ended with forgiveness and respect. Now it's time to end this chapter, built on the aimlessness and the dislocation and the mistakes that define all transitions, and move on. Regrets are wiped away, reputations are accepted, relationships are clarified. Some may come later than others, but I have faith that they will come. It just takes time to untie all the knots and unite new ones.
"In life, only one thing is certain, apart from death and taxes. No matter how hard you try, no matter how good your intentions, you are going to make mistakes. You’re going to hurt people. You’re going to get hurt. And if you ever want to recover… there’s really only one thing you can say."
"Forgive and forget. That’s what they say. It’s good advice, but it’s not very practical. When someone hurts us, we want to hurt them back. When someone wrongs us, we want to be right. Without forgiveness, old scores are never settled… old wounds never heal. And the most we can hope for, is that one day we’ll be lucky enough to forget."
- Grey's Anatomy