Mind Your Table Manners
Lately I've found myself talking to both my exes about their romantic relationships, potential or otherwise. I'm pretty sure that this isn't considered healthy behavior for people who got so sick of each other that they're no longer a couple. But I guess being in a relationship with someone (past tense) creates a useful perspective for giving them advice for their relationships (future tense).
We've been talking about this theory of how everyone has a potential relationship which is always on the table. And I know that a lot of people might consider this unfair or leading the other side on, but sometimes you really just can't change how things develop. The fact is that you get along great with someone and that you can see the possibility of something happening, but both or one of you just aren't ready or the timing isn't right. It's a yes, just not right now. So you put things on hold while that possibility is always lying around, just waiting for the right moment when you're ready to risk your friendship for something deeper.
Bobby would say that this is another example of how complicated straight relationships can get. After hearing all about the sex-without-the-rest ethos of the homosexual community from him, it does seem entangling. But most of us know that gray areas are part and parcel of any relationship, and we learn to live with the ambiguity of the situation - because it comes with a deep sense of reassurance from knowing that you fit with someone no matter how fucked up you are now.
I could write several rom coms (romantic comedy, for those of you not in the know) from all the material I've accumulated about people and their relationships over the past year. Not sparing myself on that one, either.
*****
I think it's axiomatic by now that adjudication is really an old debater's occupation. You get to enjoy your retirement by avoiding the stress and headaches of debating or being part of the adj core while reaping the same benefits in terms of social atmosphere and the company of debaters (which I'll admit isn't always an unadulterated good thing). And besides, adjudicating internationally only because you didn't make the tryouts makes you bitter, bitter, bitter - I know I still am.
Given all the online unpleasantness surrounding the last AUDC, I thought I'd post a few soundbites which I highlight the humor and fun I had at that tournament:
AUDC 2006 Soundbites - The Ateneo AUDC (in more ways than one)
Pinoy cab driver (from the airport): So where do you come from?
Sarala (tranny Singaporean DCA): I'm from Singapore.
Cab Driver: Oh you come from a really strict country...didn't you hang one of our maids?!
(Mabuhay ka, Flor Contemplacion!)
Carl: Sarala, you're having two drinks at the same time?
Jason Jarvis: Sarala just likes double-fisting.
*Bobby and Carl stare at each other for a second before bursting out in laughter*
Jason Jarvis: Oh you perverts. I meant double-fisting her drinks!
(Double-fisting in a non-sexual way means holding one alcoholic drink in each hand and drinking them at the same time. For the other definition, see Google...my blog is kid-friendly).
Kellda: Did you see anything you liked in Fully Booked?
Jayme: I was thinking of buying Rousseau's Discourse on Inequality - it typifies my visit to the Philippines.
(Oh these patronizing Singaporeans who diss us while taking advantage of our cheap beer...)
Any other fun soundbites from the tournament? Post a comment. I like collecting these things.
We've been talking about this theory of how everyone has a potential relationship which is always on the table. And I know that a lot of people might consider this unfair or leading the other side on, but sometimes you really just can't change how things develop. The fact is that you get along great with someone and that you can see the possibility of something happening, but both or one of you just aren't ready or the timing isn't right. It's a yes, just not right now. So you put things on hold while that possibility is always lying around, just waiting for the right moment when you're ready to risk your friendship for something deeper.
Bobby would say that this is another example of how complicated straight relationships can get. After hearing all about the sex-without-the-rest ethos of the homosexual community from him, it does seem entangling. But most of us know that gray areas are part and parcel of any relationship, and we learn to live with the ambiguity of the situation - because it comes with a deep sense of reassurance from knowing that you fit with someone no matter how fucked up you are now.
I could write several rom coms (romantic comedy, for those of you not in the know) from all the material I've accumulated about people and their relationships over the past year. Not sparing myself on that one, either.
*****
I think it's axiomatic by now that adjudication is really an old debater's occupation. You get to enjoy your retirement by avoiding the stress and headaches of debating or being part of the adj core while reaping the same benefits in terms of social atmosphere and the company of debaters (which I'll admit isn't always an unadulterated good thing). And besides, adjudicating internationally only because you didn't make the tryouts makes you bitter, bitter, bitter - I know I still am.
Given all the online unpleasantness surrounding the last AUDC, I thought I'd post a few soundbites which I highlight the humor and fun I had at that tournament:
AUDC 2006 Soundbites - The Ateneo AUDC (in more ways than one)
Pinoy cab driver (from the airport): So where do you come from?
Sarala (tranny Singaporean DCA): I'm from Singapore.
Cab Driver: Oh you come from a really strict country...didn't you hang one of our maids?!
(Mabuhay ka, Flor Contemplacion!)
Carl: Sarala, you're having two drinks at the same time?
Jason Jarvis: Sarala just likes double-fisting.
*Bobby and Carl stare at each other for a second before bursting out in laughter*
Jason Jarvis: Oh you perverts. I meant double-fisting her drinks!
(Double-fisting in a non-sexual way means holding one alcoholic drink in each hand and drinking them at the same time. For the other definition, see Google...my blog is kid-friendly).
Kellda: Did you see anything you liked in Fully Booked?
Jayme: I was thinking of buying Rousseau's Discourse on Inequality - it typifies my visit to the Philippines.
(Oh these patronizing Singaporeans who diss us while taking advantage of our cheap beer...)
Any other fun soundbites from the tournament? Post a comment. I like collecting these things.