what to do, what to do . . .
Two phone calls, one night.
First phone call had me spilling advice to a dear friend. Even I was stunned by my own wisdom. I think it was complete hypocritical bullshit, but it came out just right - maybe I should go back into counseling. It was a good talk though, I hadn't heard from him in a while, and it was just nice to chat.
Then the second call came. It was one that threw me for a loop. I haven't had to answer the phone to someone crying in a while. To be honest, I've been trying to avoid the inevitable situation all weekend. I'm not a big fan of not having words to say, running out of advice, or possibly having to choose sides. I've done that before, but luckily it never turned out bad on my part. I'm so lost in what to do now. I don't like things to be broken, I need things fixed in some way and quickly.
I really don't like seeing my friends hurt, or hurting others. I don't like nor do I really want to make enemies. And I know that if I would truly pick a side, I would make an enemy and that sucks - royally. I know it's not the typical way of going about your friends' breakups, but I really want to hear his thoughts. I want to know what exactly is going through his mind. I doubt I'll get an honest answer, but I have to at least try.
This sucks! This sucks! This sucks!
And I don't even know why it sucks. Is it because I want the relationship to resolve in some way? Or because I just want to yell at her, and tell her it is not the end of the world? Maybe it's that I want to shake him and tell him how good he could have had it.
UGH! *sigh* What do I do?
First phone call had me spilling advice to a dear friend. Even I was stunned by my own wisdom. I think it was complete hypocritical bullshit, but it came out just right - maybe I should go back into counseling. It was a good talk though, I hadn't heard from him in a while, and it was just nice to chat.
Then the second call came. It was one that threw me for a loop. I haven't had to answer the phone to someone crying in a while. To be honest, I've been trying to avoid the inevitable situation all weekend. I'm not a big fan of not having words to say, running out of advice, or possibly having to choose sides. I've done that before, but luckily it never turned out bad on my part. I'm so lost in what to do now. I don't like things to be broken, I need things fixed in some way and quickly.
I really don't like seeing my friends hurt, or hurting others. I don't like nor do I really want to make enemies. And I know that if I would truly pick a side, I would make an enemy and that sucks - royally. I know it's not the typical way of going about your friends' breakups, but I really want to hear his thoughts. I want to know what exactly is going through his mind. I doubt I'll get an honest answer, but I have to at least try.
This sucks! This sucks! This sucks!
And I don't even know why it sucks. Is it because I want the relationship to resolve in some way? Or because I just want to yell at her, and tell her it is not the end of the world? Maybe it's that I want to shake him and tell him how good he could have had it.
UGH! *sigh* What do I do?