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I'm always the "single" friend. While all of my friends have been in and out of multiple relationships over the past couple years, I've stayed single. There's a lot of reasons too numerous to go into here. But let's just say I'm pleased with being single and see no need, at this point, to worry about getting coupled up at any point in the near future. I do my thing, my friends do their thing.
But I can't help but feel annoyed at times, because my friends will start dating and then forget that anyone else in the world has ever existed. I know exactly what goes on, because I've been in relationships a couple of times where I drop off the face of the earth. Things are new, you're getting to know each other, and perhaps more importantly, nothing has become routine yet. So their new-found amnesia is justified to an extent. What pisses me off is when I'll call or text and won't receive anything back. Especially if I am trying to arrange something when we haven't seen each other in a while. This is part of a larger problem of certain friends being unable to meet me half way on a consistent basis, but that is neither here nor there. So I go weeks without talking to someone, largely through their own faults, and then when we do talk, all I hear about is their new partner is unnecessary detail. Sometimes, I can't even get a word in about what is going on in my life because of all that verbal diarrhea.
I'm not bitter, I'm happy that you've found someone that you want to talk about for hours on end. But it's rude not to contact me for a while and then expect me to listen to inane stories about people I don't even know. So let us all take a moment to think about decorum. We will all be the better for it. And in return, I'll listen with genuine interest (for at least ten minutes) and try to have more patience with you when you're going through the initial, exciting stages of your relationships.
But I can't help but feel annoyed at times, because my friends will start dating and then forget that anyone else in the world has ever existed. I know exactly what goes on, because I've been in relationships a couple of times where I drop off the face of the earth. Things are new, you're getting to know each other, and perhaps more importantly, nothing has become routine yet. So their new-found amnesia is justified to an extent. What pisses me off is when I'll call or text and won't receive anything back. Especially if I am trying to arrange something when we haven't seen each other in a while. This is part of a larger problem of certain friends being unable to meet me half way on a consistent basis, but that is neither here nor there. So I go weeks without talking to someone, largely through their own faults, and then when we do talk, all I hear about is their new partner is unnecessary detail. Sometimes, I can't even get a word in about what is going on in my life because of all that verbal diarrhea.
I'm not bitter, I'm happy that you've found someone that you want to talk about for hours on end. But it's rude not to contact me for a while and then expect me to listen to inane stories about people I don't even know. So let us all take a moment to think about decorum. We will all be the better for it. And in return, I'll listen with genuine interest (for at least ten minutes) and try to have more patience with you when you're going through the initial, exciting stages of your relationships.