I wish I knew what to tell you to do, Annie. Is there anyplace you can go like social services or perhaps one of your relatives can lead you in the right direction. I know none of them are particularly helpful usually but this seems like a desperate situation and you just need to be out of there. What about one of your cousins close in age. Is there the possibility of moving on campus since you're back in University?
I am so sorry you're going through this? I just dont understand why people like your father have children, not that I'd ever want to be in a world without you in it. But its just so harmful and hateful to treat someone this way when they didnt ask to be here in the first place.
I know it must be scary as hell that he can just boot you out one day and mean it. You should definitely just start looking up things online for help in situations like this. Try to give yourself some kind of strength even though I wont pretend its easy at all. Its hard and my thoughts and prayers are with you. When is he going away for a month? That might be a good time to start, if you can even wait that long.
I know you'd help if you could, and just having you to be sensible and reasoned and get me to take a deep breath and look at my options is a big help. I have a Centerlink appointment soon, and they'd be the people to ask, because when you move out of home, they give some financial support. I'm not sure if they'd be able to point out where I might go, but I could always ask, since they handle that kind of thing, they might have a list of places for people like me who have to leave home under less than ideal circumstances.
And much as I hate to lean on her, Ma would prob be able to help me figure out something, even if it's just like, going through the paper and looking at ads! I don't want to put too much pressure on her, because I cannot go through the family drama about 'using' her and being 'selfish' and all that again, but she's my best option.
The exam I just finished was the last, assuming I pass and can graduate, so uni accomodation isn't an option. And my cousins- well, my eldest is moving out, but he'll be getting a house with his gf and I don't feel comfortable asking to join them. He's a great guy, but...we're not that close that I can feel- I mean, if I got kicked out tomorrow, I know he'd let me stay, but as a long-term plan, it's not going to work.
Netty, I'd love to live with her, and her bf's cool, so that wouldn't be a prob, but I don't think they have any plans to move out soon, especially not with her hours having been cut at work recently. We have a family lunch on Saturday (for my father's imminent departure- I call it a 'celebration of him leaving' in my head, but obv it's more a 'bon voyage, travel safely' thing) so I'll talk to her again and see if anything's changed recently. I have some money saved, so that might make a difference. Or not, but I'll check anyway.
I just dont understand why people like your father have children, not that I'd ever want to be in a world without you in it
That means a lot to me, thank you. *hugs* And I think we'd be a lot better off sometimes if they'd chosen not to have me, but that's a moot point now.
He's just so contemptuous of me, and I try not to care about his opinion, but it still hurts. He acts like I've been doing nothing all this time, but I guess he doesn't count that Land Conservation certificate as 'constructive'. Okay, I'm not going to get a job out of it, but that was still work three days a week where I got some experience, even if it's not a field I'm going to continue in.
I know it must be scary as hell that he can just boot you out one day and mean it
It totally is. I had a few nightmares about being kicked out and having nowhere to go. Sometimes my dreams are vague and meaningless, but that doesn't take any psychoanalysis to work out. I know I have a month's reprieve when he leaves next Thursday (oh, god, that can't come fast enough, I hope I survive til then), but when he gets back, it's like, any day he can decide he's had enough and get rid of me. The uncertainty is killing me.
Thank you so much for your calm advice and constant support, I don't know how I'd get through without your friendship. *hugs tight*
I am so sorry you're going through this? I just dont understand why people like your father have children, not that I'd ever want to be in a world without you in it. But its just so harmful and hateful to treat someone this way when they didnt ask to be here in the first place.
I know it must be scary as hell that he can just boot you out one day and mean it. You should definitely just start looking up things online for help in situations like this. Try to give yourself some kind of strength even though I wont pretend its easy at all. Its hard and my thoughts and prayers are with you. When is he going away for a month? That might be a good time to start, if you can even wait that long.
*hugs* <3<3<3<3
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And much as I hate to lean on her, Ma would prob be able to help me figure out something, even if it's just like, going through the paper and looking at ads! I don't want to put too much pressure on her, because I cannot go through the family drama about 'using' her and being 'selfish' and all that again, but she's my best option.
The exam I just finished was the last, assuming I pass and can graduate, so uni accomodation isn't an option. And my cousins- well, my eldest is moving out, but he'll be getting a house with his gf and I don't feel comfortable asking to join them. He's a great guy, but...we're not that close that I can feel- I mean, if I got kicked out tomorrow, I know he'd let me stay, but as a long-term plan, it's not going to work.
Netty, I'd love to live with her, and her bf's cool, so that wouldn't be a prob, but I don't think they have any plans to move out soon, especially not with her hours having been cut at work recently. We have a family lunch on Saturday (for my father's imminent departure- I call it a 'celebration of him leaving' in my head, but obv it's more a 'bon voyage, travel safely' thing) so I'll talk to her again and see if anything's changed recently. I have some money saved, so that might make a difference. Or not, but I'll check anyway.
I just dont understand why people like your father have children, not that I'd ever want to be in a world without you in it
That means a lot to me, thank you. *hugs*
And I think we'd be a lot better off sometimes if they'd chosen not to have me, but that's a moot point now.
He's just so contemptuous of me, and I try not to care about his opinion, but it still hurts. He acts like I've been doing nothing all this time, but I guess he doesn't count that Land Conservation certificate as 'constructive'. Okay, I'm not going to get a job out of it, but that was still work three days a week where I got some experience, even if it's not a field I'm going to continue in.
I know it must be scary as hell that he can just boot you out one day and mean it
It totally is. I had a few nightmares about being kicked out and having nowhere to go. Sometimes my dreams are vague and meaningless, but that doesn't take any psychoanalysis to work out. I know I have a month's reprieve when he leaves next Thursday (oh, god, that can't come fast enough, I hope I survive til then), but when he gets back, it's like, any day he can decide he's had enough and get rid of me. The uncertainty is killing me.
Thank you so much for your calm advice and constant support, I don't know how I'd get through without your friendship. *hugs tight*
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