Not to totally tack on a "Me too!" to your post here, but I felt the same way when planning my wedding. I think most brides do. It's probably natural. It doesn't suck less, but it's OKAY.
I was overwhelmed and hurt by the disconnect between "It's your day!" and "If you don't do what I want, I'll have my feeling's hurt!". Other people had expectations of my wedding and they wanted stuff, too. I had no idea what people wanted or what their motives were. I had to learn how to make people feel "honored", I had to go out of my way to make some people feel included when I really just didn't want to give a crap. This was near impossible to predict and no one warned me about! I really think the saying "it's your day" is to make brides buy more expensive stuff.
I would like you to read my article on this topic: http://offbeatbride.com/2012/09/weddings-make-everyone-crazy . I don't mean to brag, just this may help you, especially number 3 on the list- "Relationships are changing". I have a copy of the book I mentioned in the article and it explains MUCH more about point number 3, and I think you may find it very useful. It discusses the changes in a bride's relationship with her parents/family, her fiance and her friends. I would love to give this book to you. I feel this may help you find some peace.
There's a LOT to do, just... so much stuff to do and get and remember. It's hard. It really is. I was frustrated a lot and constantly pissed off. The ONLY way I got through it was by sheer determination and list making. Some stuff just fell to the wayside because I couldn't do it all. I guess I'm saying: pick some super important stuff and deal with that. Everything else- just make loose plans and let it happen. That was particularly hard for me, but I just sorta let my cake happen. I just gave them a picture and said "this"- I was super surprised when it showed up at all!
I know you're ultra busy, tired and just plain ol' overwhelmed lately, but if you want some advice and a shoulder to cry on from someone who survived this very thing, I'm here. We may not have time to meet in person, so I want to mail you those things we talked about. It might take a tiny load off your mind.
I was overwhelmed and hurt by the disconnect between "It's your day!" and "If you don't do what I want, I'll have my feeling's hurt!". Other people had expectations of my wedding and they wanted stuff, too. I had no idea what people wanted or what their motives were. I had to learn how to make people feel "honored", I had to go out of my way to make some people feel included when I really just didn't want to give a crap. This was near impossible to predict and no one warned me about! I really think the saying "it's your day" is to make brides buy more expensive stuff.
I would like you to read my article on this topic: http://offbeatbride.com/2012/09/weddings-make-everyone-crazy . I don't mean to brag, just this may help you, especially number 3 on the list- "Relationships are changing". I have a copy of the book I mentioned in the article and it explains MUCH more about point number 3, and I think you may find it very useful. It discusses the changes in a bride's relationship with her parents/family, her fiance and her friends. I would love to give this book to you. I feel this may help you find some peace.
There's a LOT to do, just... so much stuff to do and get and remember. It's hard. It really is. I was frustrated a lot and constantly pissed off. The ONLY way I got through it was by sheer determination and list making. Some stuff just fell to the wayside because I couldn't do it all. I guess I'm saying: pick some super important stuff and deal with that. Everything else- just make loose plans and let it happen. That was particularly hard for me, but I just sorta let my cake happen. I just gave them a picture and said "this"- I was super surprised when it showed up at all!
I know you're ultra busy, tired and just plain ol' overwhelmed lately, but if you want some advice and a shoulder to cry on from someone who survived this very thing, I'm here. We may not have time to meet in person, so I want to mail you those things we talked about. It might take a tiny load off your mind.
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