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i am writing this entry in response to a previous one, please note i am not doing this to start anything, i am simply doing this b/c i feel i deserve to say these things about the subject matter i read earlier.
i am sure many of us have been in a situation like this so please feel free to read.
I read something that basically criticized my way of friendship. You say you have never had a friend like the one you are best friends with now. you say you have never had anyone who would stay with you until the dying end. I am glad you are fortunate enough to have that in your life as of now. Really i am b/c i am glad the person you are friends with receives what they give. you see, and i speak for many people i am sure when i say this, i was very willing to be there with you til the "dying end." I went above and beyone extremes building the friendship we had. it was just hard at times b/c it was taken advantage of. please do not get mad at what i am saying, for i feel it should just be taken in and let go of. I am not saying this to be mean, i am saying it b/c it seems you were trying to make a point with your entry, and now i am doing it with mine.
People change, things change, situations change. That is what life is about. Please take into consideration that just becuase people change, and it is changing without you, moving on, changing directions as you, or what... it doesnt meant it was a change for the worse. The context you take change in is your personal choice, but please do not view all change as negative. For me, the changes and learning experience has been yes life changing, but at the same time, it gets better all the time. Sure it is not perfect. I am human, i feel pain, sorrow, emotional distress, but we all have people who help us through things. I am glad you are happy, even if it is doing things that i prefer not to enjoy... its your life and what makes you happy is your thing. I am not saying it is good or bad, i am just saying i respect the fact that at least you are able to have a friend now that you can respect as much as they respect you, b/c i certrainly busted my ass to get there, but you never really let me in. there was always a door shut somewhere, and that is fine.
I just feel that it is not fair to say the things you say about friendship. It is however fair to say that you have never had a friend like that. Who has? No friend you come across are the same, b/c if they were, then words such as unique and individuality would not exist. Just please respect those of us who stuck by you when most wouldnt, who were there for you time and time again, b/c though we arent like your friend now, we displayed unconditional friendship like she does. I am not blaming anything or anyone for things that take place in our lives. POinting fingers isnt fair, so please dont make it sound like you have never had lifelong friends that would do anything for you b/c we all had the potential to be that for you, but it just didnt work out. But now that you have someone who you can recipricate that feeling of friendship with, you will hopefully see what the meaning of being a true friend is.
If you have changed your views on people and things, then that is great, really. I have learned good and bad things from my experiences, as i am sure you have as well. Just keep in mind, as long as you are alive, things will always change. Do not look down on those who arent freinds with you in the future, for they have just chosen a different path to take... just look at it in the way that you helped them get there whether it was through an argument or a genuine goodbye. I view many things much different than i did years ago....and as far as i know, i will remain very flexible with my views b/c if i am not, then i will only see things the way i see them, and that is not fair to the people, things and events that surround me. I love life, my friends, and my family. I couldnt ask for more or less, but i know itis everchanging. Im not afraid of my future, and i try not to have regrets about my past.
Again, please do not take any of this the wrong way, if you do just know it was not my intentions to make you feel anything negative. I just felt it only be fair to defend my effort towards the friendship that we had.
i am sure many of us have been in a situation like this so please feel free to read.
I read something that basically criticized my way of friendship. You say you have never had a friend like the one you are best friends with now. you say you have never had anyone who would stay with you until the dying end. I am glad you are fortunate enough to have that in your life as of now. Really i am b/c i am glad the person you are friends with receives what they give. you see, and i speak for many people i am sure when i say this, i was very willing to be there with you til the "dying end." I went above and beyone extremes building the friendship we had. it was just hard at times b/c it was taken advantage of. please do not get mad at what i am saying, for i feel it should just be taken in and let go of. I am not saying this to be mean, i am saying it b/c it seems you were trying to make a point with your entry, and now i am doing it with mine.
People change, things change, situations change. That is what life is about. Please take into consideration that just becuase people change, and it is changing without you, moving on, changing directions as you, or what... it doesnt meant it was a change for the worse. The context you take change in is your personal choice, but please do not view all change as negative. For me, the changes and learning experience has been yes life changing, but at the same time, it gets better all the time. Sure it is not perfect. I am human, i feel pain, sorrow, emotional distress, but we all have people who help us through things. I am glad you are happy, even if it is doing things that i prefer not to enjoy... its your life and what makes you happy is your thing. I am not saying it is good or bad, i am just saying i respect the fact that at least you are able to have a friend now that you can respect as much as they respect you, b/c i certrainly busted my ass to get there, but you never really let me in. there was always a door shut somewhere, and that is fine.
I just feel that it is not fair to say the things you say about friendship. It is however fair to say that you have never had a friend like that. Who has? No friend you come across are the same, b/c if they were, then words such as unique and individuality would not exist. Just please respect those of us who stuck by you when most wouldnt, who were there for you time and time again, b/c though we arent like your friend now, we displayed unconditional friendship like she does. I am not blaming anything or anyone for things that take place in our lives. POinting fingers isnt fair, so please dont make it sound like you have never had lifelong friends that would do anything for you b/c we all had the potential to be that for you, but it just didnt work out. But now that you have someone who you can recipricate that feeling of friendship with, you will hopefully see what the meaning of being a true friend is.
If you have changed your views on people and things, then that is great, really. I have learned good and bad things from my experiences, as i am sure you have as well. Just keep in mind, as long as you are alive, things will always change. Do not look down on those who arent freinds with you in the future, for they have just chosen a different path to take... just look at it in the way that you helped them get there whether it was through an argument or a genuine goodbye. I view many things much different than i did years ago....and as far as i know, i will remain very flexible with my views b/c if i am not, then i will only see things the way i see them, and that is not fair to the people, things and events that surround me. I love life, my friends, and my family. I couldnt ask for more or less, but i know itis everchanging. Im not afraid of my future, and i try not to have regrets about my past.
Again, please do not take any of this the wrong way, if you do just know it was not my intentions to make you feel anything negative. I just felt it only be fair to defend my effort towards the friendship that we had.