Inclusion
I want to make something clear to you: I do not owe you anything.
You have no right to hold any expectations of me. You have no right to expect me to live up to those expectations, regardless of what those expectations are.
You are neither my father nor my employer. You hold no power over me, and I do not recognize you as an authority figure. I hold some affection for you, but this gives you no rights over me, nor does this allow you to try to mold who I am.
I understand that there are things that I do which frustrate you and that you wish were otherwise in me. This gives you no right to try to change them, or to punish me when I do not live up to any expectations you have made for me without my knowledge or input.
There are things about myself that I wish were different. There are things about myself that I am working to change. But I am not you, nor am I subservient to you or running your processes. My goals for myself are not yours. My methodology for achieving those goals is mine, and is working, though not how you would do it.
Stop trying to force your expectations on me. I don't care how reasonable they seem to you. They are inhibiting my growth and stunting my ability to progress.
If you are angry with me, or if I am hurting you, please don't try to solve the problem on your own. Excluding me, if it's my anger or my pain that is hurting you only makes the problem worse. If I am hurting you, please tell me, and then maybe we can work together to find a solution to the pain.
You have no right to hold any expectations of me. You have no right to expect me to live up to those expectations, regardless of what those expectations are.
You are neither my father nor my employer. You hold no power over me, and I do not recognize you as an authority figure. I hold some affection for you, but this gives you no rights over me, nor does this allow you to try to mold who I am.
I understand that there are things that I do which frustrate you and that you wish were otherwise in me. This gives you no right to try to change them, or to punish me when I do not live up to any expectations you have made for me without my knowledge or input.
There are things about myself that I wish were different. There are things about myself that I am working to change. But I am not you, nor am I subservient to you or running your processes. My goals for myself are not yours. My methodology for achieving those goals is mine, and is working, though not how you would do it.
Stop trying to force your expectations on me. I don't care how reasonable they seem to you. They are inhibiting my growth and stunting my ability to progress.
If you are angry with me, or if I am hurting you, please don't try to solve the problem on your own. Excluding me, if it's my anger or my pain that is hurting you only makes the problem worse. If I am hurting you, please tell me, and then maybe we can work together to find a solution to the pain.