I've been thinking about this post for months, and there's no easy way to say it. It's born out of a lot of thinky thoughts on women, fandom,
rape culture, and basically all the things I've been posting about lately.
In January, I made this post about
gay subtext, and I was overwhelmed at the response it had. Then I made another post about
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you know, i emphatically think it is a thing where we all help each other evolve. Like, Myra and I were watching the trailers for all the movies pre-IMII and at one point I sort of stared at the screen and said something like "Are there actually ANY WOMEN in these movies?" because they were all boys' stories and boys doing boy things and more boys in more action-adventure films, and - oh, hey, wait, there's a girl, oh, look, she's getting kissed.
and i *know* that i wouldn't have been as attuned to this a year ago as I am now; I know that it's because of fandom as a community speaking out about Racefail that I started to open my eyes to so many things both inside and outside fandom, in terms of privilege and gender and sexuality.
i love love love fandom! and i want/need to do so much more to make it a *truly* progressive space. so my first step is talking about it. thank you for letting me. <3
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See, I've heard that as an excuse SO often from people in fandom, and I've used it myself before. But after a while I look at things like the character Chuck in SGA, who originally didn't even have a NAME until fandom went "oh hey that guy let's write about him!" and created this whole backstory for him. Or just look at some of the things that have been done with minor characters in HP, for example: whole backstories and universes have been created for characters like Peter Pettigrew and any number of the Death Eaters.
So what stops us from taking that mentality and applying it to women? Main characters or minor? We just so rarely do that for the girls. And when we do they get called Mary Sues. It's really frustrating. :(
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I don't mind slashfic, and I've read some spectacular slash. But the idea of only focusing on the boys just seems so alien to me.
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Of course, talking isn't the same as taking action, and taking action can be a lot harder, especially when so much energy gets built up around these m/m pairings and that's where the interest and investment is, and it becomes like "yes, wow, it's awful that women are being ignored, but these male characters are the characters I'm already in love with." And detaching a bit and re-attaching to a fandom or pairing that is more female-friendly can be hard. Especially when those female-friendly pairings tend to have a lot less action happening around them. I mean, even with a writing challenge to write female characters, it's a bunch of scattered female characters rather than one strong fandom. It's like the big m/m pairings are these rivers with grand currents that will sweep you up and take you places, and in ( ... )
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I completely agree with you about a lot of this. For me, personally, it all comes back to last year and Racefail, because for me, personally, watching people go through that and stand up and speak about it means that I can't continue to be passive--like, it is the very least I can do to make up for all the crap those fans and writers had to go through, to not just keep on writing and pursuing the status quo. And once you start thinking about changing it's like your eyes just keep being re-opened to how much more work there is to do. But you can't stop--I can't just go back, like you were saying, to that place where everything was comfortable and easy. Because now I know what kind of things I'm empowering by doing that, and I can't go back to that place of ignorance. I mean, I could, but I'd be doing so with full awareness of what kind of harmful system I'm enabling.
Regarding the grand rivers v/s the tiny streams -- this is actually one reason why I really love a) The Devil Wears Prada fandom and b) femslash_today. Because in both cases you ( ... )
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femslash_today looks cool, but I am generally happier following recs or authors I already know than browsing through fics (because I tend to feel compelled to finish stories even when they're not very good, so I try to only start ones that I have reason to believe will be good.) I suppose I should go looking for het or femslash reclists. Do you know of any good ones?
I did just recall one great het-and-femslash podfic I listened to, so my contribution to recs is that. And there's a lot of OT3 stuff I've found and loved with two men and a woman, but I feel like, while that's a step in the right direction, it's not as far a step as I'd like to be taking. It is nice that it's out there, though. I'd say that's how I have mostly satisfied my RAWR WANT MORE LADIES feelings about fanfic thus far.
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To use myself as an example: in 2002 my friend C came to visit me, and while she was visiting she let me read and beta her N*Sync fanfic, where her main character, also named C, meets and falls in love with J.C. while the band is on tour. It was a fun fic. She was really proud of it. And I read it the whole time thinking LOL NOOB because her fic was so obviously a Mary Sue fic. But the thing was: she didn't know it was a Mary Sue fic. She was more or less brand-new to fandom, had come into Popslash via ff.net, and didn't know that there was a derogatory term for what she was writing. And all I remember about the fic now is that it was fun and she was really excited about it. But me--I'd only been in fandom a few years at that point myself, and I'd already gotten accustomed to hating and mocking a Mary Sue. So privately, I mocked hers. Why shouldn't i? And I still hate that I did that. Oh, and C. had already decided at that point to throw in some Lance/Justin slash, because she knew it would be popular. I don't think we ( ... )
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My first attempts at writing were slash. I loved slash then, and I love it now, but I came to realize over time that I had issues about writing women. So I wrote a het romance, purely to challenge myself to confront some of those issues. It was a mostly male POV novel, but I wrote a strong heroine and really enjoyed writing her. Now I am writing a female-POV romance with an even stronger heroine, and it's my favorite piece of fiction I've written yet (of course, I think that about every story I write, at the time that I am writing it). I still love me some good m/m romance, but I'm glad that I pushed myself out of my comfort zone. Writing women, and getting more comfortable writing women, almost feels like it's been therapy for me.
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it's so reassuring and encouraging to read this comment. i feel like the biggest challenge is just getting back in the saddle again, so to speak, and then once we're there, we realize for ourselves how much fun it is and how easy it is to just, you know, not leave out the girls. so yes. thank you for this. :)
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