It is realistic that it almost hurts to read to be honest, which is why I can sort of appreciate because it would have been laughably awful if was otherwise. Judy Blume is a good writer after all.
And I guess I just wanted to be emotionally invested in these characters but it was painful to even listen to the narrator's thoughts---the narrator was a victim-blaming apathetic witness to the bullying of the overweight girl.
The fat I'm talking about, is, yeah, heavy, but I'm not saying we should promote sedentary lifestyles, just a diversity people and treated respectfully.
I mean, I'm a size 18 but I work out at the gym four times a week, I limit eating fast food to, like, once a month and try to eat the right amount nutrients everyday. I just like to see or read about a person that looks like me and not having to be told, "oh, it's unhealthy" when you can't really tell just by looking. I think there is an obesity problem but there's also a body image problem kids have and the latter is one of my biggest demons that I'm trying to let go.
I hope I'm not sounding like attacking you about body issues. I'm just trying to be upfront that me desiring a plump person as a protagonist is of no way at all me of promoting people harming themselves.
I hate how the admission of fatness has to come with a list of everything you're doing right.
That's not a slam on you. I know why you included all that. If you don't, you get people who are "concerned" about your "health," and who feel a need to evangelize about the "eat less, exercise more" mantra.
It just irritates me. Who's to say that I, as a woman with stellar blood pressure and cholesterol and blood sugar, who exercises for an hour a day, am any less healthy than someone who pours salt onto his food, eats at McDonald's every day, works in an office and plunks down in front of the TV every single night? At first glance, the lazy slob is way better off than me, because he doesn't bulge noticeably.
Why the hell should I have to explain what's between me and my doctor? Who am I hurting, if I choose to fall off the wagon and have ice cream for dinner every night this week? Why is it someone's job to point out the error of my ways, and guilt-trip me until I at least stop admitting it? Does guilting people actually help? No, it doesn't. It just makes the self-important (presumably) skinny person feel more self-righteous.
So, yeah. Fat people as an object lesson. Sick of it.
That's not a slam on you. I know why you included all that. If you don't, you get people who are "concerned" about your "health," and who feel a need to evangelize about the "eat less, exercise more" mantra.
Oh, don't worry about it. It's cool. I hear you. TBH, you're right, that is why I stated I was healthy. I just do not want to deal with that stuff anymore. It gets so tiring to hear all the fucking time it's like a defense mechanism now. I just want to avoid it like a virus.
I can't say I blame you in the least. I do the same thing, for the same reason, and I'm getting really tired of it. I'm a lot more tired, though, of the hateful comments I get if I leave out the, "See how good I am!" paragraph, or the random derogatory comments I get on the street or at the gym (when I'm goddamn EXERCISING argh), or the pitying looks my husband gets for being stuck with a human balloon.
We're all human, I guess, unless we don't look like the people we like looking at this week.
And I guess I just wanted to be emotionally invested in these characters but it was painful to even listen to the narrator's thoughts---the narrator was a victim-blaming apathetic witness to the bullying of the overweight girl.
The fat I'm talking about, is, yeah, heavy, but I'm not saying we should promote sedentary lifestyles, just a diversity people and treated respectfully.
I mean, I'm a size 18 but I work out at the gym four times a week, I limit eating fast food to, like, once a month and try to eat the right amount nutrients everyday. I just like to see or read about a person that looks like me and not having to be told, "oh, it's unhealthy" when you can't really tell just by looking. I think there is an obesity problem but there's also a body image problem kids have and the latter is one of my biggest demons that I'm trying to let go.
Thanks for the rec. I will check it out.
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That's not a slam on you. I know why you included all that. If you don't, you get people who are "concerned" about your "health," and who feel a need to evangelize about the "eat less, exercise more" mantra.
It just irritates me. Who's to say that I, as a woman with stellar blood pressure and cholesterol and blood sugar, who exercises for an hour a day, am any less healthy than someone who pours salt onto his food, eats at McDonald's every day, works in an office and plunks down in front of the TV every single night? At first glance, the lazy slob is way better off than me, because he doesn't bulge noticeably.
Why the hell should I have to explain what's between me and my doctor? Who am I hurting, if I choose to fall off the wagon and have ice cream for dinner every night this week? Why is it someone's job to point out the error of my ways, and guilt-trip me until I at least stop admitting it? Does guilting people actually help? No, it doesn't. It just makes the self-important (presumably) skinny person feel more self-righteous.
So, yeah. Fat people as an object lesson. Sick of it.
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Oh, don't worry about it. It's cool. I hear you. TBH, you're right, that is why I stated I was healthy. I just do not want to deal with that stuff anymore. It gets so tiring to hear all the fucking time it's like a defense mechanism now. I just want to avoid it like a virus.
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We're all human, I guess, unless we don't look like the people we like looking at this week.
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