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[duckay]

Since my last post was based on an anecdote that made me go "WTF?" and was specific to boys, I thought I'd follow it up with an anecdote I heard today from a female friend that really made me "WTF??" even harder

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[missingkeys]

"Let him". o.O The wording alone squicks me a great deal. I don't honestly think that I could answer that with a true/false even now, despite knowing full well what it's like to have a baby (or two). Actually, no, I can: I'd hardly let a boy have sex with me, but there's a bit more to the question than that. I imagine if I wanted a mark for it I'd circle 'false' (how do they even grade that?!), but that's a shocker of a question. I think I'd take it up with the teacher if for no other reason than it's shockingly worded.

I'd probably discuss it with my child. Like, define 'boy' (are we talking a similar aged classmate, an older man, a teacher, somebody on the street, a long-term partner), define 'me' (ie. The child as an eleven year-old versus that same child as a 21 year-old, 31 year-old', including relationship status and whether or not she wants to have a child in the future), the 'want' aspect of the question. Especially the want part. There's a massive difference between 'nice boots, wanna fuck?' in a classroom and your partner once you've grown a fair bit beyond being eleven. Also 'let him'. That really does imply a very special 'lie back and think of England' turn of phrase to me. I've consented to sex, definitely, but I really don't like to think I've "let" people have sex with me.

[duckay]

Apparently those who said "false" got a mark for it, and no one she knew of said "true".

And yeah, I think (as clafount said) they were probably going for soemthing like 'girls shouldn't have sex with boys just because they ask, whenever they ask', but it's really shockingly phrased. o.O

[missingkeys]

I'm glad somebody else could make more sense of it than I could! I definitely wouldn't have answered 'true' to the second, but goodness. I just couldn't help but think of the delightful honeymoon period with my ex, where if he'd wanted sex I would have been all like, 'woot!' Not that I imagine an eleven year-old should have that same memory, but the teacher and his or her proofreader at least should have known better.

[sheisred]

I know, the "let him" part really got to me, too. You know, women aren't ever active participants in sex - at least not the ones who can call themselves ladies.

[missingkeys]

Coming back to this a day later, it also makes me think that they're almost trying to foster yet another generation of chicks who think that they're not at all empowered when it comes to sex. Obviously the rest of the exam and course probably doesn't reflect the horrid wording of this question, but ugh. 'Let'. :/

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[sheisred]

Just also had to say that every time I see that icon, I think, "OMG, looka that little face!" Truly one of the cutest baby pics I've ever seen. :)

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[missingkeys]

Aww, thank you! *beams* I really love the icons I have of him. :)