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Bras, revisited!
We tackled if we'd allow our daughters to go sans bras.
Now onto the next issue - how young is too young?
Would you let your daughter wear one in elementary school even if she clearly didn't need one?
A bit over a week ago, thanks to her endlessly reading The Care and Keeping of You, my 8.5 year old, 2nd grade BABY wrote me a note asking if I thought she needed a training bra or sports bra. She also informed me that she is in stage 2 of breast development. (I had to look it up, so I'll explain - that's the stage after 100% flat-chested when the breast buds begin to develop, but it doesn't have a breast shape.)
So, in order to not go overboard, but also respect her desire to...whatever...I bought her two "crop-top" style things and 2 undershirts, and told her that they'd be good for when she's participating in her sports to keep her nipples from rubbing against the rough fabric or wearing sundresses, which tend to fall off her shoulders and expose her nipples.
NOW, BOOJU, NOW? She is smuggling her 'bra' on vacation and wearing them every single day to school. I have now hidden said bras (one in her Tae Kwon Do bag where she CAN wear it, and one in my drawer.) And I said "You don't need one every day! No one can see anything in that tshirt!"
Should I let her wear one every day despite the fact she doesn't need one?
Do I want to be the mom who allows her kid to start the 3rd-grade bra-wearing trend??
How do I tell her that she's too young for a FREAKIN' BRA without crushing her spirit and excitement about growing up and making her feel awkward about coming to me with these questions next time?
FWIW, IF she needed a bra, I'd let her wear one. But she doesn't "need" one. She wants one. AND SHE IS 8!
Now onto the next issue - how young is too young?
Would you let your daughter wear one in elementary school even if she clearly didn't need one?
A bit over a week ago, thanks to her endlessly reading The Care and Keeping of You, my 8.5 year old, 2nd grade BABY wrote me a note asking if I thought she needed a training bra or sports bra. She also informed me that she is in stage 2 of breast development. (I had to look it up, so I'll explain - that's the stage after 100% flat-chested when the breast buds begin to develop, but it doesn't have a breast shape.)
So, in order to not go overboard, but also respect her desire to...whatever...I bought her two "crop-top" style things and 2 undershirts, and told her that they'd be good for when she's participating in her sports to keep her nipples from rubbing against the rough fabric or wearing sundresses, which tend to fall off her shoulders and expose her nipples.
NOW, BOOJU, NOW? She is smuggling her 'bra' on vacation and wearing them every single day to school. I have now hidden said bras (one in her Tae Kwon Do bag where she CAN wear it, and one in my drawer.) And I said "You don't need one every day! No one can see anything in that tshirt!"
Should I let her wear one every day despite the fact she doesn't need one?
Do I want to be the mom who allows her kid to start the 3rd-grade bra-wearing trend??
How do I tell her that she's too young for a FREAKIN' BRA without crushing her spirit and excitement about growing up and making her feel awkward about coming to me with these questions next time?
FWIW, IF she needed a bra, I'd let her wear one. But she doesn't "need" one. She wants one. AND SHE IS 8!