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[fadeddesignxx]

Your biologically male or female child comes out to you as transexual. They are thirteen at the time, and have been expressing issues with their gender identity. Do you seek therapy for them, to see about potentially putting them on horomones? Do you ignore the issue? Do you call them by the correct pronouns, and a name they select

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[darkenedminds]

I would have them see a therapist, and would call them by the pronouns and names they select after diagnosed with gender Identity Disorder. I would not allow hormone treatment and would encourage them not to have it after they are out of my care, period, at any point in life, regardless of how they choose to dress and live. I have no problem with transgendered people but I cannot in good conscious support a medical procedure that is so new and little researched, that goes so against what biology dictates.

If my kid were intersexed and, well, transgendered for their chromasomal sex as opposed to what they appear to be, I would more willingly support and allow HRT and appropriate surguries.

[daddysambiguity]

"If my kid were intersexed and, well, transgendered for their chromasomal sex as opposed to what they appear to be, I would more willingly support and allow HRT and appropriate surguries."

But HRT and under-researched surgeries apply to intersexed folks as well.

[darkenedminds]

I know this. I really didn't want to get into my ethical beliefs regarding this, because even though I feel this way, its not important to me and I don't get on my high horse about it. I was just sharing an opinion when asked, not making wank - trans people, and in the future, my hypothetical trans kid can do whatever they want for all I care.

As far as ethical beliefs, I don't mean "oh, being trans is wrong and sinful zomg", but "This surgery goes against physical biology for a sum of money and doctor's time that can save lives". I feel a person with the opposite chromosomes than what they look like is going less against nature because there is a physical ailment causing their physical sex to be different than what they feel, and its not their brain saying their physical sex doesn't match their inner gender.

I have trouble wording this without sounding like a big dick (or, i guess bigger than i mean to be), so I avoid it.

[ladydreamer]

...define new. Sexual reassignment surgeries started at the turn of the 20th century. I'll look it up when I'm not lazy, but the first full transition was somewhere in the 1920/30s. Christine Jorgensen was in the early 50s (How Sex Changed, by Meyerowitz). I know that probably won't change your mind, but I would argue on the "new" definitely, and maybe the "little researched" as well. The surgeries have improved a great deal since their inception.

[darkenedminds]

No need to look it up. I'm versed to a certain degree, and am a research scientist myself. I know its not new in age but to me, its new in the sense that it hasn't been performed so much, and is constantly 'improving' and changing. Frankly, on a chemical level, the HRT just doesn't make sense to me as a healthy way to live, in addition to my moral issues with nonessential (ok, nonessential might piss people off, but i'm talking in a sense of life-or-death, which might still piss people off, but whatever) medical procedures