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[ncp]

A married couple has one child, who is a toddler. Both parents love the child, who is as well-behaved as a toddler can be, and is generally well-adjusted and well-loved.

One spouse wants to add to the family very, very badly. The other spouse does not, and keeps avoiding any serious discussion of why not.

What should the first parent do, if

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[l0verlada]

Husband and I discussed this before getting married to avoid this situation. I think they would both have to sit down and have a serious discussion and lay out reasons to and to not and see why they feel that way.

[_otravez]

My husband and I discussed things like this before getting married to avoid situations like this as well... but guess what? A few years later, we BOTH changed our minds. Crazier things have happened :P

[l0verlada]

Eh, it's a precautionary measure :P OP doesn't say much about the situation. I don't know about anyone else but having (multiple) kids was and is a big thing for me and it was very important hubby had the same viewpoint. If things change, they change. That's why it's important to talk about the reasons for feeling that way imo.

[_otravez]

I know. The smug "That is why we talked about it BEFORE we got married" people, annoy me. Sure, I talked to my husband about how many kids we wanted, where we wanted to live, etc before we got married. But guess what? Our one turned in to wanting two. Our city changed. We want different things as we got older... shocking :P

[amyura]

This.

[cschick]

Right.

My husband said before we got married that there was no way in the world that he'd chose to have an only child.

The kid is going to be an only child, and it's a mutually agreed upon decision.

[sblmnldrknss]

Exactly