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Jun 04, 2010 22:48

Your spouse is making enough money to allow you to stay home with your (smaller than school-age) children. You get a chance to take a full-time job in your field, that would allow you to pay for daycare. Do you take it, or do you stay home? Why?

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tericarl

I'd probably take it. I go a little insane not having some sort of work/project going on and I think a sane mom is a happy mom!

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elizabethann40

It depends: how stable is my husband's job? How do I feel about my field? Is it *just* paying for daycare? <--must add on that one: it might be okay for me if it's 'just' paying for daycare...keeping current is important in my field, and it might have been worth it.

How supportive is the husband on having me working? Is he expecting me to do full time OTH and still do all the full time house chores?

I really, really like what I do for a living, so I would usually skew to the job. My kids did well in daycare, and are starting to get launched well into college, which at least validates that I didn't mess 'em up too badly...

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alocin

I wouldn't.
But that's because I already work and have been perpetually tired for the last 5 months. I'd give my left arm to be able to stay at home and enjoy their childhood.

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this_worm_wine

I wouldn't take it if my partner was working as well. In my family, the kids have all had one of their parents stay home and raise the kids and my FH and I want to give our kids a similar upbringing. Initially, it will be be at home, until the youngest child is weaned. After that, whether its him or me is anybody's guess, but either way, our kids won't be in day care, no matter how much we could potentially earn.

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this_worm_wine

Yikes. That post makes me wish I still had a paid account so I could edit my comments. I apologise for the english fail.

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cinder_sweet

I'm going to go on the opposite of most of the responses. I realize that a lot parents like to stay home with their children and are filled with happiness to have that opportunity. Currently, I am a stay-at-home mom and have alternated between working and homemaking over the years. Two of my younger children are still not kindergarten age yet. I feel happier when I have a job. I have worked varying shifts (overnight and M-F days) and yeah there are still disadvantages to working or not working no matter how one slices it (or at least in my case). If I can work my dream job and place my children in quality childcare with a provider who can work with me on what I want for them, then I would be happy. I don't have the motivation to teach them skills and concepts everyday, but a provider may do a better job of that than I ever can. I do believe that a happier mom can make for happier kids and a happier household overall.

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tericarl

Claps!

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