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Mar 03, 2010 14:28

We are re-locating our (military) family from California to Georgia. For the move, I've made arrangements to leave our 15 month old with my mother-in-law in WV. I'll be flying out to CA for a week to pack everything up and the husband and I will be driving cross-country, picking up our son, and continuing on to GA ( ... )

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breakableheart

Only you can answer this question. There are so many variables from how well the kid knows your MIL to whether or not you are still breastfeeding to how well your kid copes with separation - my goodness!

I think it's wrong for your family to buttinski unless they want to help you move across the country.

Is there some reason this community has turned into a personal advice community? Seems like it's been more lively lately, but in a really non-debate way. Curious.

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foxysushi

the question I was trying to ask is this: Given appropriate childcare, is it right for parents to travel apart from their children while the child is so young? Or should a parent remain at home until the child is older?
Like I said I'm not looking for advice- this has just become a huge subject for debate in our house and I was curious what the members of this community had to say about it. I've already decided to travel.

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breakableheart

Yeah, I totally got you decided to travel.

My answer is that only the parents of the child can decide - there are too many variables to take into consideration to make a blanket "right" or "wrong" judgment.

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si_anenome

You do what you need to do. Period.

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29_alison_29

I agree with the PP, this is a question only you can answer for yourself. Personally, I couldn't do it! At 15 months especially, my son is 3.5 and the thought of a few days is heart-wrenching to me. Let alone 2 whole weeks! But you may be in a different situation than me. I am a working mom, I am away for 10 hrs a day, 4 days a week and I have that mommy-guilt about it. So I want to spend every moment I can with him! You might stay at home and be more in need of a break. I don't know....

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sueg

I can't really say what is right or wrong for you, and I'm not sure what can be construed as "selfish" about packing all your belongings and driving across the country, like that's a wild good time or something? I would never have done it at that age, though - I would have reasoned that my son needed my company more than my husband during that week of driving. I would have paid airfare for my MIL to come help with my son during the packing instead.

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ol_whatshername

I would not have been able to do it. But my friend went on vacation when her son was one and never thought anything of it. Moving sucks one way or the other.

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orbg

I wouldn't leave my kid because I don't trust my MIL, and mine is still breastfeeding, and has never stayed with other family.
It's not something anyone else can answer for you.

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