I don't think you should base it off one family. My siblings (4 of them) are my best friends. Sure we fought a lot when we were kids, just like I did with kids that weren't my siblings but having brothers and sisters is one of the greatest things about my life. I recently had my second child and although I was nervous about how #1 would cope with a sibling and how I could love two the same, he (#2) is such a wonderful addition to our family. Seeing how much my daughter loves him and cares for him is so sweet and I love that she has a friend to grow up with.
My girls are very well behaved and don't bicker much with each other or their friends, but we just got clobbered with 4 feet of snow and they were off school for almost 2 weeks. Being locked up with each other 24-7 will make kids a bit stir crazy and I had my moments of remembering how nice it was to just have 1. Also, the more you have, the more difficult it becomes to split your time between them without losing yourself or your sanity.
Listening to other people's kids fight makes me wanna pull my hair out, but it really is "different" when they're you're own. You're more tolerant and you have the authority to put a stop to it. But if I have any more, it'll probably only be 1 and probably when my 7 year old is nearly grown so I guess for different reasons, I kinda feel the same as you despite the fact that I've already had 2! JUST ONE BABY would be nice : )
Helping take care of kids and raising your own children are very different things. You can't base how many kids you want on other people's families at one given moment. At one point I wanted 12 kids and then when I was in my teens I decided 2 maybe 3 at the most. I loved having a sibling and my brother is my best friend. It isn't a given because the kids must want the type of relationship they have with their sibling. Now I decided that I want at least 3 three kids, but if I'm not in a position to have more kids in the next 6 years I'm going to not have more kids (I have 2).
You have to think about finances, your desires, your partner's desires, your age, your partner's age, both of your careers and education, etc. when planning for kids. If you know you want kids but don't know how many there is nothing wrong with saying you don't know how many right now.
Being in a slightly large family, with 3 much older siblings, and a bunch of much older half-sisters, then being raised with my older nephews and nieces, and helping raise the younger ones, add working in a daycare on top of that, and you could say children have surrounded me since day 1. Because of the age gap between my siblings and I, I've usually been treated like a (rebelling teen) child. Since being in the younger generation of my family, I have become best friends with most of my nephews and nieces and we rarely argue
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Don't feel too bad. My family starting bugging me about "So when you gonna have you some of these?" back when I was still 18-19. I always just told them "Why should I when I can just borrow one of yours since you keep having them?"
Fact is, you never really know how many kids you're going to have until you get there. You can plan and hope all you want to but life doesn't really work out that way. I'm currently pregnant with my first and let me tell you, I did not plan on having kids even at this age, 27.
Personally, I'm not going to completely rule out the idea of more children in the future but I'm not gung-ho on the idea either. I want to see how my life changes first, because it will. Oh it definitely will.
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gregariouspeach
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jewe1z
Listening to other people's kids fight makes me wanna pull my hair out, but it really is "different" when they're you're own. You're more tolerant and you have the authority to put a stop to it. But if I have any more, it'll probably only be 1 and probably when my 7 year old is nearly grown so I guess for different reasons, I kinda feel the same as you despite the fact that I've already had 2! JUST ONE BABY would be nice : )
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mkiero
You have to think about finances, your desires, your partner's desires, your age, your partner's age, both of your careers and education, etc. when planning for kids. If you know you want kids but don't know how many there is nothing wrong with saying you don't know how many right now.
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namida_k93
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paidmydebts
Fact is, you never really know how many kids you're going to have until you get there. You can plan and hope all you want to but life doesn't really work out that way. I'm currently pregnant with my first and let me tell you, I did not plan on having kids even at this age, 27.
Personally, I'm not going to completely rule out the idea of more children in the future but I'm not gung-ho on the idea either. I want to see how my life changes first, because it will. Oh it definitely will.
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