jonathan681 in booju_mooju

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Mar 01, 2010 11:31

Teenagers don't like being compared to other people. We don't like it when our parents go,"Well, if everybody else jumped off a bridge, would you do that too?"
Probably not. But this isn't about jumping off a bridge. This is about going to a party on Saturday.
For anyone who's ever gotten that speech, I understand how you feel.

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claudia6913

I honestly can't even count how many times I heard that. It's also part of the "do as I say, not as I do" mentality (of which my father was a master of ( ... )

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rikkicarey

Mom to 22yrs old, 19 yrs old and 3yrs old says

"hahahhahahahahahahahahahahahaHA! shoot I pee'd my pants"

This post sounds soooooo much like a teenager not getting what they want and trying to justify it any unreasonable way they can.
Y'know, the other thing... one day wayyyy in the future when your teenage kid(s) try to pull this on you one day you're going to chuckle a little to yourself and remember how "unreasonable" your parents were. You really wont give two hoots what "teenagers like" cause... it's your job to give the "what they need"

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rikkicarey

Dang.. I need to pay for my account so I can quickly fix typos!

Sorry about the missing letters, doubled up words and run on sentences... my figures don't keep up very well on Monday mornings.

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evilkins

It's the three year old. I know mine eats my brain while I sleep.

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evilkins

It's the three year old. I know mine eats my brain while I sleep.

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paidmydebts

I got that speech too. It's not the actually phrasing that's important, it's the idea behind it. For whatever reason, the parents are uncomfortable with the idea of you going to that party. It could be because they don't like/don't know the kids that are going to be there, are worried about supervision, possible illicit activities (drugs, underage drinking etc.) or any number of reasons. Not knowing the full picture behind this statement, I can't really give a clear picture as to what's *really* going on.

The whole point of parenting is to teach, guide and protect. Sometimes it hard for the parents to see when it's time to back off and let the kid make their own decisions. Just like it's hard for the kid to see when they're about to plunge headlong into a potentially dangerous situation.

We've all been there and survived it one way or another.

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nacho_cheese

And when you grow up then have to consider your own children, you'll know how we feel then, too. At least, I'd hope! After all, that implies some sense of maturity. ;)

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alicia_beth

The statement is really used in response to a teenager's reasoning of "well everyone else is doing it" which shouldn't be a reasoning for anything. I never used that line with my parents and so I never got the "jumping off a bridge" talk either. If I had I'm sure I would have.

I had more compelling arguments...I won't drink alchohol even if others are, I will not drive with anyone who did drink, I will bring my own vehicle, yes I WILL call if for some reason I DO drink even though I've already said I won't, I'll be going with some friends and we'll stick together, yes so and so's parents DO know about it, etc.

So, I didn't have an issue with having my parents say no because I knew when the request was reasonable. Someone having a party behind their parents back? No way in hell my parents were going to let me go and so I didn't even bother to ask. (Not to say I didn't GO to those when I was older and could drive but I was smarter about it and would say I was sleeping over a friend's house.)

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