Just a Lot of Stuff

Aug 04, 2010 14:00

This past couple months have been overwhelming. My sister, Donna, was found dead in her apartment on June 21 and life changed dramatically for me. She was a hoarder, and her place was a mess. Randy, the kids, and I have worked very hard getting the place cleaned out and getting the legal matters in order. There was no will, and my Mom is beneficiary on the policies, which means everything has been left up to me. Mom is crazy. mean, and manipulative. If she were grieving, I would completely understand because no Mother should ever bury her child, but all she cares about is money. She went behind my back and did some things that are now complicating matters. I just hate her. However, things are finally starting to come together, but we still have a long way to go. Because of the way my Mom has behaved, I don't feel the kids and I have had a chance to grieve. While Donna and I didn't agree on everything, and looked at life from totally different angles, I loved her and I will miss her.

Graduation and all the festivities are over, and college orientation is also behind us. Kelsey is registered for classes, financial aid is in order, roommate is assigned, and move in day is set. We still have to get the rest of her stuff for her dorm, but that won't take much. I have to admit I will miss her, but this is an exciting event in her life and I'm happy for her.

I've been doing Weight Watchers again and so far I've done OK. It's been hard with the grad parties and eating out so much, but I've still managed to lose a little bit and some of my new things are fitting better. With my sister's death at such a young age, and some of the ailments my coworkers complain of, I have made a vow to myself to take care of myself and be in the best physical shape possible. I also need to work on the mental health part, too. I didn't realize until I had to face these issues after Donna's death how much my mother's behavior has affected me. Once all is settled, I may have to seek out a good therapist.

But, all in all, life is good. I need to go to the ocean. I will be there in 11 weeks and 3 days.

legal matters, weight watchers, kelsey, family, school

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