What is up with the barely knowing each other and getting married thing?
So I've started to notice a theme the last year or so. People I know, who shall remain nameless, get into a relationship with someone. They date maybe 3-6 mths and all of a sudden they are engaged. I don't know if they expect other people to be happy for them. Its hard NOT to feel like the whole thing is a joke. I mean, how well do you know someone after only 6 mths. I know with Josh, I continue to learn things about him daily, and although everyone has a different timeline on what is an acceptable amount of time to court someone before you propose marriage - only knowing someone for less than a year is insane! I think even knowing someone for a year is somewhat questionable. Maybe its because I dated quite a few guys for over a year and still never thought "hey he's the one". On the other hand, it may have been because he wasn't the one.
BUT REALLY....only knowing someone for 6 mths, how could you possibly know that this is the person you want to spend the REST of your life with. You're barely getting out of the 'honeymoon phase'. *rolls eyes* Its hard to know if 'these' type of people don't think too highly of marriage or the integrity behind it all. I guess, looking back, these people who bum rush into a lifetime committment - HAVE all had a divorce or two in the past. Its really hard not to take this as a joke and its even harder to have their expections from you be "ohh congrat! I'm so excited for you". AT what point is it okay to say "what the hell are you thinking?" Maybe when I hit my 40's I'll finally reach that comfort zone.
At one end of it, I've found that the older I get, the more opinionated I am. Maybe that's what 10 yrs of college gave me. They teach you day in and out to form some type of opinion of your own based off of research/observation AND there you have it....
BUT REALLY....only knowing someone for 6 mths, how could you possibly know that this is the person you want to spend the REST of your life with. You're barely getting out of the 'honeymoon phase'. *rolls eyes* Its hard to know if 'these' type of people don't think too highly of marriage or the integrity behind it all. I guess, looking back, these people who bum rush into a lifetime committment - HAVE all had a divorce or two in the past. Its really hard not to take this as a joke and its even harder to have their expections from you be "ohh congrat! I'm so excited for you". AT what point is it okay to say "what the hell are you thinking?" Maybe when I hit my 40's I'll finally reach that comfort zone.
At one end of it, I've found that the older I get, the more opinionated I am. Maybe that's what 10 yrs of college gave me. They teach you day in and out to form some type of opinion of your own based off of research/observation AND there you have it....