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Yesterday morning my brother Adam's partner of many years, Shirley, passed away. She had gone into the hospital the night before with symptoms similar to CHF but her death was completely unexpected. I didn't know her well, she and Adam kept to themselves mostly. She was always pleasant to me and I never had any issue with her. I am sorry for the loss my brother and Shirley's family is feeling.
Our parents are completely missing the notion that my brother is going through one of the most tragic losses a person can experience. Because they weren't married, separated a couple times and lived a different lifestyle than most their relationship is not viewed as serious. My parents are acting as if Adam lost a girl he went on a couple of dates with and not the person he's spent the last 10 years with. Even Bill observed that Shirley was Adam's world.
I feel so awful for Adam, not only has he lost his best friend, he worries he'll lose the closeness he has with her family. He sees her grandkids as kind of like his grandkids and one of them even said his name as their first word. I never knew he had this other life but I am glad that he did. I hope it will still be there for him when the dust of grief slowly settles and things begin to return to normal.
Our parents are completely missing the notion that my brother is going through one of the most tragic losses a person can experience. Because they weren't married, separated a couple times and lived a different lifestyle than most their relationship is not viewed as serious. My parents are acting as if Adam lost a girl he went on a couple of dates with and not the person he's spent the last 10 years with. Even Bill observed that Shirley was Adam's world.
I feel so awful for Adam, not only has he lost his best friend, he worries he'll lose the closeness he has with her family. He sees her grandkids as kind of like his grandkids and one of them even said his name as their first word. I never knew he had this other life but I am glad that he did. I hope it will still be there for him when the dust of grief slowly settles and things begin to return to normal.