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[boidykefaggot]

so i guess i am single now. weve broken up a million times but this time im for real. he still wants to move in with me...he wants to be friends with benefits. i really dont see how this will work but i am willing to try the whole poly thing. ive been way too jelous to do it in the past but i feel like that is the only solution to our problem

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[tgwkt]

i wish i could give you advice, i'm sure i have enough to say about your situation. but on live journal it seems so weird. i'm really sorry to hear about all this, email me some time and i'll give you real advice. oh, and i miss you! when are you coming back to visit?

[boidykefaggot]

well then what the fuck is your email? i miss you too! i dont know when i am coming back...i still have stuff up there...possibly for thanksgiving, but i am not sure.

[tgwkt]

isaac@elysion.com

[bowl_of_lilacs]

don't do it. a lot of my best friends are my exes, and all of the time i wish i could just live with them, and go out with them, and hang out all the time and we could be basically dating but also somehow single enough to date other people. but that's just asking for jealousy, hurt, resentment. at least don't move in for awhile, get your bearings strong and alone for a bit, and then make the decision far from whatever it is you're feeling right now. i know if i was in your shoes i'd want to prove that i really do love him enough to want to try whatever he wants to do - and that's a recipe for disaster.

[angie_star]

i think sarah's right - it's a bad idea.

if you don't think you should be with anyone right now, then do that. that's what i'm doing and it's really really good. doesn't mean you can't have sex every now and then, but it does mean not getting attached to anyone, and it sounds like if you were still sleeping with tai that's exactly what would happen... i don't think "friends with benefits" works with exes.

i'm still trying to figure out how to be friends with isaac. it's hard. i feel for ya.

[boidykefaggot]

i know it would be good for me, just super hard. yeah i know friends with benefits would never work. that just makes me laugh right outloud. i dont know...

[boidykefaggot]

i know i know! but there are so many other factors and details that play into it that i didnt write about, its like super complicated...of course. yeah, were not going to move in for like a month...i feel like every option is a recipe for disaster...yikes.

[unbashdsentimnt]

i'd say don't do it. i lived with an ex 9 months after we broke up and it was still too fresh and we acted insane and there was cutting and general badness. it sounds like you are unclear as to what he wants and he might be unclear as to what you want and also, until you figure out those things together, living together would be bad and painful. even if you both knew, if it was too much about compromise, it might not work. you shouldn't compromise too much with someone you just broke up with. it's your time to be free...

ummm what I dont like this

[queer_caramel]

maybe next time you shouldnt post my buisness and dont act like I want to just move in with you and all that shit man....so next time tell the whole story not just a third