Quite the day so far
So the girls woke up before six. Suboptimal but not worth fussing over. Then Ivy gnawed at her toenail until she started bleeding (what the heck, Ives? biting fingernails is bad enough!). She let me clean the wound and put cream on but freaked out over how I bandaged it--ultimately it took three bandages to for her to be willing to leave it alone.
Despite the freakout, they were ready for school, so we left even though it was super early. They stomped in puddles and I was happy to let them dawdle. Ivy and I took Maggie to her line, and she was the first there. And then a boy from her class came up and put himself at the front of the line. She got weepy and distressed and "I wanted to be in the front," but she didn't actually stick up for herself and assert her place in line. So I took her by the elbow and told her she needs to ASK for what she wants, and steered her to the front of the line, telling the boy that she was there first. He didn't deny it and allowed her to stay at the front.
It breaks my heart sometimes. I see myself in her; I too was full of insecurities and lacked social grace as a child. I wish I could gift her some more confidence, help her know when and how to stick up for yourself and when to let things roll off your back.
Despite the freakout, they were ready for school, so we left even though it was super early. They stomped in puddles and I was happy to let them dawdle. Ivy and I took Maggie to her line, and she was the first there. And then a boy from her class came up and put himself at the front of the line. She got weepy and distressed and "I wanted to be in the front," but she didn't actually stick up for herself and assert her place in line. So I took her by the elbow and told her she needs to ASK for what she wants, and steered her to the front of the line, telling the boy that she was there first. He didn't deny it and allowed her to stay at the front.
It breaks my heart sometimes. I see myself in her; I too was full of insecurities and lacked social grace as a child. I wish I could gift her some more confidence, help her know when and how to stick up for yourself and when to let things roll off your back.