Trouble at school: the aftermath
So we picked Sebastian up at school yesterday, and asked him how his day was. He told us that it was fine.
Now, if you're a parent, you can usually tell when a child is stressed and lying, and when they're totally relaxed. Sebastian was clearly relaxed. We questioned him, and he told us that he hadn't had to miss any recess that day, and that there had been no problems. Teri tried a trick or two on him - "Why did you tell him that you'd kill him again?" - and his instant response was "I didn't!". If he'd done it, we know him well enough to be sure that he would have reflexively tried to justify himself.
We were sure he didn't do it.
So I called his school, and eventually got to speak with his teacher. What she told me was confusing. As far as she could figure it out, the other boy's teacher heard Sebastian and him talking about the incident, and got confused. The original incident happened on Tuesday, and she apparently heard them discussing it on Wednesday or Thursday. The other boy got detention, but not for a second threat - rather, it was for something else he'd done, something totally unconnected with Sebastian. So Sebastian was totally innocent. And the person who called me from the school (I wish I'd gotten her name) and mentioned the possibility of suspension was way out of line.
We're very relieved!
Now, if you're a parent, you can usually tell when a child is stressed and lying, and when they're totally relaxed. Sebastian was clearly relaxed. We questioned him, and he told us that he hadn't had to miss any recess that day, and that there had been no problems. Teri tried a trick or two on him - "Why did you tell him that you'd kill him again?" - and his instant response was "I didn't!". If he'd done it, we know him well enough to be sure that he would have reflexively tried to justify himself.
We were sure he didn't do it.
So I called his school, and eventually got to speak with his teacher. What she told me was confusing. As far as she could figure it out, the other boy's teacher heard Sebastian and him talking about the incident, and got confused. The original incident happened on Tuesday, and she apparently heard them discussing it on Wednesday or Thursday. The other boy got detention, but not for a second threat - rather, it was for something else he'd done, something totally unconnected with Sebastian. So Sebastian was totally innocent. And the person who called me from the school (I wish I'd gotten her name) and mentioned the possibility of suspension was way out of line.
We're very relieved!