I'm thankful for this site, as I now understand everything, and I mean EVERYTHING, I've been doing wrong.
http://www.geminisolutions.co.za/Amore_September.htm It's fantastic, really. Once your eyes stop bleeding, you continue on to look at the photo galleries (because, really, it's like watching a train wreck unfold in slow motion), and then the galleries TEAR THE FRESH SCABS FROM YOUR EYEBALLS AND THE BLEEDING BEGINS ANEW.
Or, something like that, anyway...
ps. Bonus pain for you Photoshop users...