Love Is Not a Feeling
‘Genuine love, on the other hand, implies commitment and the exercise of wisdom. ‘
‘Commitment means that the therapist listens to the patient, like it or not. It is no different in a marriage. In a constructive marriage, just as in constructive therapy, the partners must regularly, routinely and predictably, attend to each other and their relationship no matter how they feel. As love, and it is at the moment when the mating instinct has run its course that the opportunity for genuine love begins. It is when the spouses no longer feel like being in each other’s of the time, that their love begins to be tested and will be found to be present or absent.’
‘True love is not a feeling by which we are overwhelmed. It is a committed, thoughtful decision.’
---------------------------------------------------------- The Road Less Traveled
‘Commitment means that the therapist listens to the patient, like it or not. It is no different in a marriage. In a constructive marriage, just as in constructive therapy, the partners must regularly, routinely and predictably, attend to each other and their relationship no matter how they feel. As love, and it is at the moment when the mating instinct has run its course that the opportunity for genuine love begins. It is when the spouses no longer feel like being in each other’s of the time, that their love begins to be tested and will be found to be present or absent.’
‘True love is not a feeling by which we are overwhelmed. It is a committed, thoughtful decision.’
---------------------------------------------------------- The Road Less Traveled