Girls.............
Why are women so comfortable talking about things with each other and terrified to do it with a partner? Is it because we are terrified of looking like more of a girl and pushing someone away? Or is it that we have to surrender and just trust in someone?
[10:24] blushinivy: so when you and Doug were first you and Doug were you all weird like this>
[10:24] carefreekitties: Oh yea. Mostly me. He was and is the calming force.
[10:25] blushinivy: YEAH!
[10:25] blushinivy: Like....no matter what as long as I have you life is fine.
[10:31] carefreekitties: Yup. Its the eternal ‘everthing will be okay' thing....
[10:31] carefreekitties: But it sux cause i want specifics...and hes just broad
[10:31] blushinivy: scares the shit out of you doesn’t' it??
[10:31] carefreekitties: YES
[10:34] blushinivy: why?
[10:34] blushinivy: like why is it so fucking scary?
Why is it so fucking scary? Is it that hard to trust in someone, to trust that things will work out? That there are too many variables, too much could go wrong…..
So why do we think about what is going to wrong and not what is going right?
‘cuz we are girls’
I call bullshit. I KNOW men think about this shit, they are just too manly to say ‘hey I am scared too…’ But would that make us feel better? Would that shatter our perception of them?
Like….we may not like something and he may not like something, but not having the option drives us insane! Again power issues.
Why is it so hard to surrender and have faith in someone, that what they do is for the best. We assume that they feel the same way, they trust us to do what is right or amazing for them….why is it so hard to return the favor?