How I saved myself...
So I have basically used my journal to post songs that are relevant for me in the moment... but I think it could be used for a grander purpose. My two friends Kaie and Katrine have been making daily posting about their journeys and I am inspired to do the same. I struggle everyday to come to grips with my depression and anxiety. I feel I need some record of my successes and failures so that I can take a step back when things seem too big and be able to take in the little miracles that keep me alive and kicking.
So how will I do this? Well back when I was in counseling I tried this exercise called the "Daily Temperature Reading" It was intended for couples, but I have got to work on my relationship with myself just as badly. :P So I will do it for myself. It goes something like this:
Appreciations: Share five things you appreciate about each other. Appreciations build up credit in the love bank. It can be a nice surprise to realize just how much our partners notice and appreciate.
Wishes, Hopes, and Dreams: Describe three things you hope for in the long run and in the short run. A partner who understands your dreams is able to help them happen. Remember that hopes change as we go along and it's important to keep each other current.
New Information: We often forget to update our partner about a change in plans or circumstances. We tell people at work or a family member and think we've told our spouse. Make the daily updates a ritual. Information is crucial to staying in-synch and feeling connected.
Puzzles: Clear-up big or little mysteries before they become suspicions, jealousy, false assumptions, or resentments. Most "puzzles" have simple explanations. You just have to ask.
Complaints with Request for Change: Get in the habit of saying what you want rather than what you don't want. Describe a specific behavior that bothers you and explain how you'd like it done. It's an inexpensive investment in your marriage. Cheaper than a dozen roses.
Well that is about it, give it a try if you like, could be fun ;)
So how will I do this? Well back when I was in counseling I tried this exercise called the "Daily Temperature Reading" It was intended for couples, but I have got to work on my relationship with myself just as badly. :P So I will do it for myself. It goes something like this:
Appreciations: Share five things you appreciate about each other. Appreciations build up credit in the love bank. It can be a nice surprise to realize just how much our partners notice and appreciate.
Wishes, Hopes, and Dreams: Describe three things you hope for in the long run and in the short run. A partner who understands your dreams is able to help them happen. Remember that hopes change as we go along and it's important to keep each other current.
New Information: We often forget to update our partner about a change in plans or circumstances. We tell people at work or a family member and think we've told our spouse. Make the daily updates a ritual. Information is crucial to staying in-synch and feeling connected.
Puzzles: Clear-up big or little mysteries before they become suspicions, jealousy, false assumptions, or resentments. Most "puzzles" have simple explanations. You just have to ask.
Complaints with Request for Change: Get in the habit of saying what you want rather than what you don't want. Describe a specific behavior that bothers you and explain how you'd like it done. It's an inexpensive investment in your marriage. Cheaper than a dozen roses.
Well that is about it, give it a try if you like, could be fun ;)