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Things just seem to get worse with Mom. The doctors who do the tests the GI surgeon (Dr. B.) wants Mom to have are booked up until October 18. So I either make some more damn calls (on work time) to see if I can find some other docs to do these tests sooner and have the results sent to Dr. B., or we wait until October 18. Dr. B. was okay with waiting until October 18, but I know Mom isn't.
She got her check from her 401k withdrawal to pay for her court fees and medical bills. But the check doesn't cover everything, and she still hasn't gotten (that I know of) disability check. She doesn't have money for rent, utilities, car payment, car insurance, food... and we would have to use credit cards or borrow money to pay for her bills on top of ours. So we can't help her financially.
Nana said that Mom could stay with her, but she'd have to give up her cats. Mom is talking about living in her car with her cats rather than give them up.
OKAY, I really understand that she loves her cats and it would be hard to give them up. BUT, she's delusional to think she can live in her car with two cats. Eric and I both have told her that it's not healthy, she can't do that. Eric asked where are you going to keep a litter box in your car? I told her it would be too hot in the car in the daytime and too cold at night -- she can't keep her car running 24/7 to keep the temperature right. She asked me if I would give up my cats, and I told her yes I would if it came down to give them up or risk my health. I told her it would be hard, and I would miss them, but I would do it.
So, I expect she's going to be evicted soon for not being able to pay rent, and she'll have to go live with Nana. I found three no-kill animal shelters near enough to Nappanee/Goshen that we can take the cats to, hoping that would help Mom to know that her cats will not be euthanized, they'll be taken care of until they're adopted.
It's just... ugh. I know Mom's in a terrible situation, but she is bawling on the phone everytime she calls me. She keeps harping on and bawling over the same things, but she won't do a damn thing for herself, even make phone calls. Eric and I both asked her to call her property manager and talk to him about not having the money for her rent, to see what her options were. She wouldn't. She doesn't open her bills, so she doesn't even know how much money she actually owes.
So I'm getting to the point where it's frustrating to help because she won't help herself. I dread answering the phone when I see she's calling.
She got her check from her 401k withdrawal to pay for her court fees and medical bills. But the check doesn't cover everything, and she still hasn't gotten (that I know of) disability check. She doesn't have money for rent, utilities, car payment, car insurance, food... and we would have to use credit cards or borrow money to pay for her bills on top of ours. So we can't help her financially.
Nana said that Mom could stay with her, but she'd have to give up her cats. Mom is talking about living in her car with her cats rather than give them up.
OKAY, I really understand that she loves her cats and it would be hard to give them up. BUT, she's delusional to think she can live in her car with two cats. Eric and I both have told her that it's not healthy, she can't do that. Eric asked where are you going to keep a litter box in your car? I told her it would be too hot in the car in the daytime and too cold at night -- she can't keep her car running 24/7 to keep the temperature right. She asked me if I would give up my cats, and I told her yes I would if it came down to give them up or risk my health. I told her it would be hard, and I would miss them, but I would do it.
So, I expect she's going to be evicted soon for not being able to pay rent, and she'll have to go live with Nana. I found three no-kill animal shelters near enough to Nappanee/Goshen that we can take the cats to, hoping that would help Mom to know that her cats will not be euthanized, they'll be taken care of until they're adopted.
It's just... ugh. I know Mom's in a terrible situation, but she is bawling on the phone everytime she calls me. She keeps harping on and bawling over the same things, but she won't do a damn thing for herself, even make phone calls. Eric and I both asked her to call her property manager and talk to him about not having the money for her rent, to see what her options were. She wouldn't. She doesn't open her bills, so she doesn't even know how much money she actually owes.
So I'm getting to the point where it's frustrating to help because she won't help herself. I dread answering the phone when I see she's calling.