Family Ties
My brother is in town this week, with his wife. I love them both so much, and it sucks they live in Virginia. I spent the weekend with them, at my mom's house in Loveland. It was nice to see my mom, too, especially because I haven't spent time with her since Christmas (the ONLY reason I wish I had a car). My thoughts on this past weekend:
I don't understand my mom's husband's family, and what their motivations are for pretty much anything they do.
I don't know why thay chose THAT weekend to scope out places in Estes Park to hold their 2009 family reunion, dragging my brother and sister-in-law along the same day they had flown in and been up since 3:30am.
I don't know why they all decided to hang around until late evening, not interacting with my brother and sister-in-law once we got back, yet managing to interfere with my family spending quality time together.
I hate spending time up in my mom's house (which is really Mark's house). I adore and love my mom, but her house is a tension bomb ready to blow.
I hope to God my relationship with Chris never become the passive-agressive back-and-forth my mom's marriage is.
Why the FUCK won't Mark help mom out financially while she looks for another job?! She got laid off for Pete's sake! She's not a bum, trying to mooch off him. Why the hell doesn't he understand that this is what a marriage means? Helping your spouse, because they are just an extension of you. When I was looking for a job, Chris was ready and willing to financially carry me as long as it was necessary! We aren't even married!!
Mark is a disgusting pig. I don't care if he has an addiction/disease (he's a sex addict, for those that forgot) - he doesn't even want to change, he doesn't care for my mom, and he has no redeeming qualities as far as I can tell.
We went to church, and ther service was all about loving the difficult people in our lives.
I don't know how to love Mark.
I pretty much hate Mark.
Seriously.
*sigh* I don't know if I feel better now or not.
And Matthew (my bro) doesn't seem to carry the same resentment for Mark that I do. I guess Mark was a bit of a father figure to him. I don't get it. And I can't talk to Matty about it, because he gets defensive of Mark. I respect Matthew's feelings on it, but I don't like it.
I can't wait to hang out with my brother and his wife (Cassandra, by the way) down here in Denver before they go home on Saturday. It'll be more fun without the tension.
*sigh*
I don't understand my mom's husband's family, and what their motivations are for pretty much anything they do.
I don't know why thay chose THAT weekend to scope out places in Estes Park to hold their 2009 family reunion, dragging my brother and sister-in-law along the same day they had flown in and been up since 3:30am.
I don't know why they all decided to hang around until late evening, not interacting with my brother and sister-in-law once we got back, yet managing to interfere with my family spending quality time together.
I hate spending time up in my mom's house (which is really Mark's house). I adore and love my mom, but her house is a tension bomb ready to blow.
I hope to God my relationship with Chris never become the passive-agressive back-and-forth my mom's marriage is.
Why the FUCK won't Mark help mom out financially while she looks for another job?! She got laid off for Pete's sake! She's not a bum, trying to mooch off him. Why the hell doesn't he understand that this is what a marriage means? Helping your spouse, because they are just an extension of you. When I was looking for a job, Chris was ready and willing to financially carry me as long as it was necessary! We aren't even married!!
Mark is a disgusting pig. I don't care if he has an addiction/disease (he's a sex addict, for those that forgot) - he doesn't even want to change, he doesn't care for my mom, and he has no redeeming qualities as far as I can tell.
We went to church, and ther service was all about loving the difficult people in our lives.
I don't know how to love Mark.
I pretty much hate Mark.
Seriously.
*sigh* I don't know if I feel better now or not.
And Matthew (my bro) doesn't seem to carry the same resentment for Mark that I do. I guess Mark was a bit of a father figure to him. I don't get it. And I can't talk to Matty about it, because he gets defensive of Mark. I respect Matthew's feelings on it, but I don't like it.
I can't wait to hang out with my brother and his wife (Cassandra, by the way) down here in Denver before they go home on Saturday. It'll be more fun without the tension.
*sigh*