a prayer for women
Please, please, stop body shaming, self-loathing, and shit talking yourself. You are already perfect.
I think the above on a daily basis, it seems. Every conversation I have held with a woman this week has involved the other party's self assessment that she is fat/needs to "lose weight"/bla bla bla shame and hate. It wears me out. I don't know what to say. I can't understand how this is part of "normal" conversation. I won't.
But then a work friend, a woman of color, told me yesterday that she is growing her hair out natural. And while it is sad that *allowing* one's hair to be they way it is requires such a personal decision and struggle with societal norms (really, this beauty myth might be the worst), I was nevertheless elated for her. I adore natural black hair; when I see it, my eyes delight. Hooray for her.
I think the above on a daily basis, it seems. Every conversation I have held with a woman this week has involved the other party's self assessment that she is fat/needs to "lose weight"/bla bla bla shame and hate. It wears me out. I don't know what to say. I can't understand how this is part of "normal" conversation. I won't.
But then a work friend, a woman of color, told me yesterday that she is growing her hair out natural. And while it is sad that *allowing* one's hair to be they way it is requires such a personal decision and struggle with societal norms (really, this beauty myth might be the worst), I was nevertheless elated for her. I adore natural black hair; when I see it, my eyes delight. Hooray for her.