The following questions are asked to every person whom reads this. For anyone who doesn't read this, I will ask them the next time I see them
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If I tried to introduce a new board game to you, why would you not want to play it?
This question is entirely too abstract for me to answer. I mean, some people don't enjoy certain types of games and I'm sure some of the people you're presenting with this don't have the same enthusiasm for games that you do. Like, people continually present me with opportunities to do DnD and roleplaying games and I turn them down, because I'm just not into that. It's entirely possible someone can get into some games and not others.
When you are going out somewhere/doing something with people, why would you not invite me?
So one of the reasons I've been so crazy and worried about my 'place in Seattle' is because of the answer to this question. The people you are directing this question at operate very much by word of mouth and convenience to plan things. They all live (relatively) close to each other, they see each other fairly frequently, and when everyone starts in the same place it's easy to make things happen quickly.
I can't possibly imagine events you aren't including in are personal swipes, more likely you are at a disadvantage not living in the city and being part of the rhythm. It's much easier to be sitting in the U-District and think "Hey, Phil is a few blocks from here, maybe he'd like to come too" than "Hey, let's try to get Eric in from Kent...."
Is there something annoying about me that I'm just not getting? If so, what can I do to change it?
As a distanced observer, I only have one thing to say: You have to trust your friends a bit more! You are so self-conscious and worried about this sort of stuff that it makes people uncomfortable.
How do you convince someone that you like them? That you really do want them around? I mean, it's easy to make people feel unwelcome, but it's much harder to do the opposite. People just aren't sure what you are expecting from them that they aren't providing, and when you're coming at this already sounding hurt, it's difficult to know what to do.
I want to say that I am really worried that something I've said in here will hurt you or piss you off, but since I'm in Nebraska the whole 'distance' thing makes it a bit easier. Plus, I've been through some of the same soul searching for the last year (In terms of "what is it exactly I expect a bunch of people 2000 miles away from here to do to make me feel like I can come hang out with them? yeeaaah....") so I thought I'd share the only perspective I've been able to come up with.
These are what I'm looking for, no worries on pissing me off. I'm looking for constructive criticism with this, and just wanting to know if I come off too strong on some things, or if I am too much of an ass sometimes, or simply who doesn't know me well enough to invite me, etc. I was wondering about making it multiple choice to try to make sure the idea of it came across better, but wanted to give free range on the answers.
This question is entirely too abstract for me to answer. I mean, some people don't enjoy certain types of games and I'm sure some of the people you're presenting with this don't have the same enthusiasm for games that you do. Like, people continually present me with opportunities to do DnD and roleplaying games and I turn them down, because I'm just not into that. It's entirely possible someone can get into some games and not others.
When you are going out somewhere/doing something with people, why would you not invite me?
So one of the reasons I've been so crazy and worried about my 'place in Seattle' is because of the answer to this question. The people you are directing this question at operate very much by word of mouth and convenience to plan things. They all live (relatively) close to each other, they see each other fairly frequently, and when everyone starts in the same place it's easy to make things happen quickly.
I can't possibly imagine events you aren't including in are personal swipes, more likely you are at a disadvantage not living in the city and being part of the rhythm. It's much easier to be sitting in the U-District and think "Hey, Phil is a few blocks from here, maybe he'd like to come too" than "Hey, let's try to get Eric in from Kent...."
Is there something annoying about me that I'm just not getting? If so, what can I do to change it?
As a distanced observer, I only have one thing to say: You have to trust your friends a bit more! You are so self-conscious and worried about this sort of stuff that it makes people uncomfortable.
How do you convince someone that you like them? That you really do want them around? I mean, it's easy to make people feel unwelcome, but it's much harder to do the opposite. People just aren't sure what you are expecting from them that they aren't providing, and when you're coming at this already sounding hurt, it's difficult to know what to do.
I want to say that I am really worried that something I've said in here will hurt you or piss you off, but since I'm in Nebraska the whole 'distance' thing makes it a bit easier. Plus, I've been through some of the same soul searching for the last year (In terms of "what is it exactly I expect a bunch of people 2000 miles away from here to do to make me feel like I can come hang out with them? yeeaaah....") so I thought I'd share the only perspective I've been able to come up with.
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