Emotion Sickness
Why is it that people complain if someone lacks emotion, but then complain when that person becomes too emotional for their liking? Relationships are the WORST for this. One partner complains that the other one won't open up or hides their emotions but then when that emotionless partner does open up and does break down those emotion barriers, the other partner then becomes annoyed that this person has become so attached.
Could it be because the partner was happy and comfortable with keeping their emotions to a minimum and you FORCED them to open up to you and because this is new to them, they become attached and sometimes a little clingy. How can you even get upset over that when you were a major factor in this progression?!? How can you force someone to share their deep feelings with you, then get upset that your partner's dependence has increased? Breaking down those walls are incredibly difficult for some people and the worst thing you can do is make that person regret ever doing it. Obviously I'm affected by this issue and that's why I'm so heated up about it, but there are a few people I know going through this right now and I just realized that this entry IS my issue. I hate when people use the line, "if you can't even tell me your feelings, I don't think we can work". If people feel close enough to you, they will share their feelings. Obviously they just aren't ready yet. Forcing the issue can really backfire.
I wasn't forced, but the issue definitely came up and there were times where I did feel pressure to churn out the feelings or lose a boy friend. The worst part is, I don't even know what they mean when they say to tell them how I feel. I tell them what I feel is important to me and what I want to share with them. The most frustrating part is telling them these things and having them still say that you aren't open enough. These are the things I feel are important. Why are they not good enough? What are they looking for? It's taken me years to pinpoint my problems with this and I've finally had a revelation.