love, life and the kitchen sink
right, picking up from where i left off.....
Monday
monday night i get a message on my phone from Poppy (charley's mum) saying i must phone her AT ONCE. so i phone her. what insues is an hours talk on my relationship with Raina and how giving her hickeys is sooooooo not a good thing to be doing. basically because she's underage me and Charley could both get put on the sex offeners register and for charley this would mean not being able to study law, or take his bar exams, or work in the european court of human rights, which is what he's wanted to do since...forever
Raina's dad is an ex psycologist who still has lots of contacts etc, he is very VERY anti Raina having girlfriends and very anti raina having sex. no one had told me this, i've met the man twice and he's always been civil and nice. however i haven't been introduced as "girlfriend" only as "friend" which may explain why i haven't met any of the hostility charley has as the big bad older lesbian stealing away the percious daughter.
but now the situation has been made abundantly clear to me. there will be no more of anything which leaves marks on the Raina, in any way shape or form, on pain of cosequences such as Poppy ringing my grandparents. i actually totaly agree with Poppy on this point and if i'd known what was going on i would NEVER have done half the stuff i had, but because Raina let me i stupidly thought it was ok, funnily enough i thought she's have enough common sense to stop me doing things that would land her in major shit...apparently not.
and i'll be the first to admit that i have done some VERY stupid things, in light of the situation...such as sending her home with a lighter burn on her shoulder and love bites all over her neck (which weren't just me, but no point splitting hairs) it just annoys me slightly that Raina could have saved us all this bother if she's just TOLD me the situation. geh, i suppose she thought i'd come to the same obvious conclusion as Charley, only it wasn't obvious to me because i wasn't seeing nearly as much of her father. meh, it's no ones fault it's just annoying.
anyway in light of this decided meeting with Charley should be sooner rather than later and so...
Tuesday
since i was on my way up to london to buy RHPS tickets anyway i decided to phone charley and see if he was free for a meeting up. phoned at 12 to be told "charley is still in bed by cathy (the younger sister) so resigned myself to not seeing him today, but lo and behold, by the time i'm on the train to charing cross, charley has woken enough to phone me and arrange a meeting, as well as reminding me about all the wheelchair stuff neccesary for booking a seat for Poppy. so after buying tickets (and noticing that PCC gives away free copies of Bizare ^^) i toddle over to Victoria (where he keeps me waiting 40 minuites!! (well ok he said meet you between 3 and half three, i turned up at three, charley sauntered along at twent to four, grrr) and we ajourned to the pub.
what followed was a long meandering conversation that took in yes charley is fine with all my extracurricular activities which he's had a FULL acocunt of from Raina, yes i'm fine with the transness, yes charley prefers "he", yes he's told Poppy (finally) and she's fine with it. and yes all is go for RHPC, all in all a good afternoon. with cider which makes it better.
got home (on time as well, go me) and had long telephone chats (this seems to be happening more and more frequently lol, hate to think of what grandparents will say when the bill gets in! but do i care?) well i probably will do when i get shouted at but hey. point is me and mum are talking more than we ever have before, and she doesn't mind about how fucked up seeming my life is! i can't imagine her being this fine if i were living with her, but hey i'll be happy with what i've got! had a convo about dad as well, starting to think it's maybe not such a bad thing he's so absent, he would inflict major dissaproval (in mums words i would have had to move out and hide my life from him entirely) geh, catholics!
to give you the backstory Dad hasn't contacted me in seven years (since i strated RHS in fact) and my older brother hasn't contacted us in even longer so we're kinda assuming he dropped of the face of the earth, i never knew him that well anyway, and by all accounts he was a major druggie and not very nice person, *sigh* Dad wasn't a nice person, and i know mums glad to see the back of him, i have kind of mixed feelings, i never really saw the bad side of him until right at the end and my child mind has kinda blocked it out (yay for the rose tinted view of the world) but i'm off to meet his parents for the first time in a fortnight (i'm going to stay in italy for a week, and i speak no italian! help!) so that should be...interesting. i'm hoping my cousins english is good!
today was work, no chopping or stirring which is why i still have the use of my arms!! instead lots of rollinf, cheese balls and then panne-ing them...burgers...and lots of pot filling, nothing very taxing actually!! and then i toddled over here to my new favorite internet cafe ( a pound an hour, in central london and right next to my favorite ice cream place! Cafe Ciao they do the best gelato in London!! seriously!) and looking forward to friday *sigh* until then i have work and not much else! oh well, at least i have time to dream! ;)
ciao
xx
Monday
monday night i get a message on my phone from Poppy (charley's mum) saying i must phone her AT ONCE. so i phone her. what insues is an hours talk on my relationship with Raina and how giving her hickeys is sooooooo not a good thing to be doing. basically because she's underage me and Charley could both get put on the sex offeners register and for charley this would mean not being able to study law, or take his bar exams, or work in the european court of human rights, which is what he's wanted to do since...forever
Raina's dad is an ex psycologist who still has lots of contacts etc, he is very VERY anti Raina having girlfriends and very anti raina having sex. no one had told me this, i've met the man twice and he's always been civil and nice. however i haven't been introduced as "girlfriend" only as "friend" which may explain why i haven't met any of the hostility charley has as the big bad older lesbian stealing away the percious daughter.
but now the situation has been made abundantly clear to me. there will be no more of anything which leaves marks on the Raina, in any way shape or form, on pain of cosequences such as Poppy ringing my grandparents. i actually totaly agree with Poppy on this point and if i'd known what was going on i would NEVER have done half the stuff i had, but because Raina let me i stupidly thought it was ok, funnily enough i thought she's have enough common sense to stop me doing things that would land her in major shit...apparently not.
and i'll be the first to admit that i have done some VERY stupid things, in light of the situation...such as sending her home with a lighter burn on her shoulder and love bites all over her neck (which weren't just me, but no point splitting hairs) it just annoys me slightly that Raina could have saved us all this bother if she's just TOLD me the situation. geh, i suppose she thought i'd come to the same obvious conclusion as Charley, only it wasn't obvious to me because i wasn't seeing nearly as much of her father. meh, it's no ones fault it's just annoying.
anyway in light of this decided meeting with Charley should be sooner rather than later and so...
Tuesday
since i was on my way up to london to buy RHPS tickets anyway i decided to phone charley and see if he was free for a meeting up. phoned at 12 to be told "charley is still in bed by cathy (the younger sister) so resigned myself to not seeing him today, but lo and behold, by the time i'm on the train to charing cross, charley has woken enough to phone me and arrange a meeting, as well as reminding me about all the wheelchair stuff neccesary for booking a seat for Poppy. so after buying tickets (and noticing that PCC gives away free copies of Bizare ^^) i toddle over to Victoria (where he keeps me waiting 40 minuites!! (well ok he said meet you between 3 and half three, i turned up at three, charley sauntered along at twent to four, grrr) and we ajourned to the pub.
what followed was a long meandering conversation that took in yes charley is fine with all my extracurricular activities which he's had a FULL acocunt of from Raina, yes i'm fine with the transness, yes charley prefers "he", yes he's told Poppy (finally) and she's fine with it. and yes all is go for RHPC, all in all a good afternoon. with cider which makes it better.
got home (on time as well, go me) and had long telephone chats (this seems to be happening more and more frequently lol, hate to think of what grandparents will say when the bill gets in! but do i care?) well i probably will do when i get shouted at but hey. point is me and mum are talking more than we ever have before, and she doesn't mind about how fucked up seeming my life is! i can't imagine her being this fine if i were living with her, but hey i'll be happy with what i've got! had a convo about dad as well, starting to think it's maybe not such a bad thing he's so absent, he would inflict major dissaproval (in mums words i would have had to move out and hide my life from him entirely) geh, catholics!
to give you the backstory Dad hasn't contacted me in seven years (since i strated RHS in fact) and my older brother hasn't contacted us in even longer so we're kinda assuming he dropped of the face of the earth, i never knew him that well anyway, and by all accounts he was a major druggie and not very nice person, *sigh* Dad wasn't a nice person, and i know mums glad to see the back of him, i have kind of mixed feelings, i never really saw the bad side of him until right at the end and my child mind has kinda blocked it out (yay for the rose tinted view of the world) but i'm off to meet his parents for the first time in a fortnight (i'm going to stay in italy for a week, and i speak no italian! help!) so that should be...interesting. i'm hoping my cousins english is good!
today was work, no chopping or stirring which is why i still have the use of my arms!! instead lots of rollinf, cheese balls and then panne-ing them...burgers...and lots of pot filling, nothing very taxing actually!! and then i toddled over here to my new favorite internet cafe ( a pound an hour, in central london and right next to my favorite ice cream place! Cafe Ciao they do the best gelato in London!! seriously!) and looking forward to friday *sigh* until then i have work and not much else! oh well, at least i have time to dream! ;)
ciao
xx